You could? I dunno. Why do you expect me to figure that out for you?

Gosh you really have a lot of patience with these two... Normally with online apps, the guy will know that he is dealing with a trans person, because as many said it’s too risky to fraud about it. Then if you meet a girl at your hotel bar, find her sexy as hell and bring her to your room and discover that you share…

You are defining consent in an extremely broad manner (one that goes well beyond, say, the way it’s described by RAINN), but only enforcing it in a way that affects a specific population. I can’t think of a motivation besides prejudice. Look, you’re allowed to be prejudiced, it’s not against the law or anything-but…

Nah, you can redefine consent to back up your position all you want, but your position that trans people need to out themselves to cis people in order to allow cis people to properly discriminate against them is wrong.

You haven’t said word one about productive approaches. Your entire schtick here is telling trans people how to behave, or rather, how not to behave. If I’m really looking for some clueless person to cissplain the complicated landscape of passing and disclosure to me, I have easier routes.

Oh the deflection and projection!

Good for you?

Enjoy your cis privilege, I guess. Glad you could take the time to tell trans people how to act, and why you aren’t a transphobe despite perpetuating transphobia.

I’m sorry, but if you’re saying that trans people’s safety doesn’t take priority over cis people’s feelings, then yes, you’re a transphobe. Framing the two as “equal” is some backdoor discrimination shit, and it’s the sort if thinking that underlies these idiotic bathroom bills.

And I think you are a cis person trying to tell a trans person what’s best for them. You’re telling me that trans people’s safety is less importance than consent, in the expanded definition you have given it. And you’re saying that trans people need to cater to cis people’s bigotry, just to exist in the world. I find…

Trust me, as a trans woman, I understand that. And I understand why other trans people make those choices. Everything is a gamble. Your way is not less dangerous, it just further marginalizes trans people and places the blame for transphobic violence at their feet. I’m going to adopt a position that prioritizes trans…

Oh no, did your R fall off? You should have someone look at that.

You have a weird idea of how sex work...works.

Yeah, I don’t get it. I don’t care if he knew or not. There is no excuse for not paying people, period.

Hi bb

Thank you for the Queen Latrice gif!!

Yeah, that’s not a thing.

Say what now?

You used the correct term :)

As a cis person, the past week of transphobic controversies have taught me two things: We, myself included, are terrible allies (and give ourselves too much credit), and we don’t understand anything about sex workers’ health and rights.