This seems to be directly tied to the issue a friend of mine and I were talking about, which we refer to as "Philosophy Bros." Philosophy Bros are intelligent, fiercely opinionated, well-versed in an array of ideas and literature and are complete garbage people because they use all of these things as a smoke-screen…
If these guys can learn all the theory but still fail to respect women, I think it shows evidence of some kind of pathology, something that prevents them from having enough empathy for other people to balance others' needs and against their own needs and desires.
This just goes to show that allyship is something you do, not something you are. No amount of parading around, declaring yourself to be a good male feminist (or a good straight queer ally, or a good white anti-racist ally) actually makes you one.
Disagree on this point:
This is why I don't give a shit about attracting men to feminism. I don't give a flying toss if feminism has a marketing problem. I don't care that you don't feel 'welcomed into the community'. For too long popular feminism has been more concerned with it's image and "collecting members" than real action.
I most certainly was not looking for someone to kick when they were down and I resent you saying so. I simply gave you the advice that I would want to hear, which is to DO something instead of crying, which helps no one, least of all you and certainly not the kids and animals. Action WILL make you feel better, always.…
Wow. I'm not sure why a suggestion to do something about the suffering kids and animals made you so angry.
Punctuation. Use it.
I politely disagree. He approached the table with a preconceived notion that there would be trouble with the customer, all based on a "look" from the hostess. He further "profiled" the customer simply based on the customer's accent. The he visualizes committing violence against the customer.
Anna Holden (of the coffee latte story) sounds like a pedantic asshole. Of course the woman wanted a latte, she was just pronouncing it wrong. It's so obvious—she was versed in Starbucks, where they probably just accepted her pronunciation as a particular tic. Anna's recalcitrance and superiority on that issue is like…
I've worked in coffee my whole adult life. Coffee latte server is a jerk. You knew she meant a cafe latte.
I don't really have anything constructive to contribute, but I felt the need to say that Rashida Jones is pretty much the most gorgeous woman on the planet. And she's freakin' smart to boot, some people have all the luck :)
OH MY GOD THE DOLLAR STACK!! Sadly this is more common than you would think. I've encountered it several times over the years. But only once was I actually able to do anything about it.
come on man. that's a little harsh. the person that wrote the story knew what the customer meant. but because the customer was being a jerk, the letter writer decided to be a jerk back. shoulda just spit in the coffee instead.
I guess we're constantly surrounded by just garbage ass asses and don't even know it. I mean, it wasn't the freshest cut of butt I've ever seen, but it seemed fine?
Seriously -straight woman here, but I thought that was a good butt. Am I wrong?
Shut up, idiot concern troll.
They also fixed the bug where you weren't allowed to bring your high horse into the Raid with you. So you've got that going for you now.
So you are insufferable for a bunch of reasons. Got it.