I dislike him for the same reason I dislike Beto O’Rourke. He’s just some dude with no qualifications, no notable successes, and no big policy idea, just like, I’m young white and goodlooking for a politician, I could be president, right?

White kids like this are everywhere. I went to a Black high school and we had a handful of these racist fuckfaces get bussed in from the suburbs.

This is how I feel too. “I haven’t tried anything on the menu” is a major red flag to me. I thought it was standard practice for restaurants (especially ones with seasonal menus) to have the waitstaff sit down and try everything for the very purpose of recommending items. The best servers will say things like, “I…

I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone make a check gesture at a waiter.

10/10

Waited tables all through high school summers and full-time through college — wouldn’t have made it through university in DC without the income from waiting tables & bartending.

And I averaged around 23%, which I’m still proud of to this day. Naysayers to tipping often talk about it not being fair to everyone, but the…

I dunno, I feel like only deigning to communicate from the service staff “from afar” is rude regardless of what specific mechanism you’re using to do it.

Yep.  When a server mirrors (or what we called repeating an order when I worked in restaurants) that shows me that they are paying attention.

A) Do not touch me unless we know each other well. Seriously. This should be a general rule for everyone everywhere let alone when they’re eating.

Both seem rude in my book, although yours less so. I usually just try to get eye contact, which is normally enough to flag down the server. My feeling is that in nearly every instance, they know they need to rotate back to my table eventually post-meal but are prioritizing more urgent needs (like the meals or orders…

Actually I was thinking of the opposite situation with my “I don’t care about what the power dynamic of the situation appears to be” comment. Even if the server is a woman (so the presumption - whether correct or not - could be that she wouldn’t be a “threat” or “is naturally more touchy-feely”) the answer is still…

DO NOT go around touching strangers! Just don’t do it. I don’t care about what the power dynamic of the situation appears to be if you don’t know them in that way do not touch them regardless of how innocuous you think it is...

Her response to the question about six weeks, in short, sucks. Yes, you want 12 weeks. Fine, I get that. But if that is not achievable, take the six weeks and then work on ironing out any unforeseen problems that arise from it and then work to get it up to 12. You have to start somewhere.

She did make office wide changes, but a man got that started. She didn’t want to lose him.

...not taking it disproportionally affects low-income women...

I agree with you. I had the luxury of being a stay at home mom when I had my beastie, but I would have been devastated to not have paid leave had I had to work. I agree with take the compromise you can that moves us forward. Then that becomes the new norm to argue from. All or nothing in politics usually means…

His eyes look like he just saw the Birdbox monster so I’m gonna go with: filter.

You either have rich parents or you live in an efficiency with 30 other people.

In Canada, leave is administered by the Employment Insurance department. (Formerly called Unemployment). There’s 8 weeks just for the person who gave birth, and the rest of a year (or 18 months, same benefit amount spread out) that can be shared by either parent; bio or adoptive. So when my husband and I adopted, we…

Please read my full comment, before flaming me.... Is it better to hold out for 12 weeks paid maternity leave and say no to a Republican led campaign of only 6 weeks when right now millions of women have zero weeks of maternity leave? Maybe we are better off arguing for how that 6 weeks are paid for than we are…