I believe it was a cartoon owl who said that when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.

HELLO LADIES! Update in my issue from SNS, I texted dude that what he said really hurts me. Apparently he needs to rectify how he thinks of me intellectually with what he *expects physically* from his partner. What the actual fucking fuck ? I’m basically going to tell him he’s projecting. No woman will ever satisfy…

It manages to have some real racist and naive and white-people-focused stuff while talking about racism - I don’t think all the resentment is about LGBTQ rights being robbed of their moment, at least some has to be that there are so many more movies that engage racism directly and artfully and interestingly and this…

The movie itself was trite, and actually pretty racist though? Like, I agree that America doesn’t like discussing race, but there’s no reason a racist person wouldn’t love Crash. My oblivious older relatives thought it was great, because it had scenarios like this: A white cop sexually assaults a black woman, but his…

Recently, I was with a friend and he wanted to watch Crash. I had never actually seen 2006 Crash, but I thought I knew the premise, I at least knew some of the actors in it. He starts telling me it’s about people that get off on car crashes and I was like “Really? What the fuck? I had no idea. I thought it was…

I don’t hate the movie; I just remain deeply confused at the adulation for what was basically a beautifully shot after-school special. The movie’s concept of racism is that everyone immediately and amply demonstrates exactly how racist they are to every single person they meet. It’s hard to get more ham-fisted than…

I’ve never been happier to both live and work in Brooklyn, and I am always pretty happy about it.

I would totally agree with you that people do all sorts of stupid shit for authenticity on camera, but I feel like it was bullshit excuse-making as well, because orchestrating a rape wouldn’t happen if it weren’t a young woman with very little power. The worst part for me was when the director said, “Because I wanted…

I had this EXACT same reaction and had a fight with my husband about it. It felt very victim-blamey to me. Like, “they didn’t notice and their kids died!!”. I think it would have been a stronger message if it was geared more toward “let’s talk about bullying, and easy access to guns”. Which I suppose is a more…

it actually makes me sad that my mind is able to connect the dots honestly. I went to high school during Sept 11th and the sniper attacks in DC. I think I am acutely aware of this gut feeling. and it makes me sad that it didn’t shock me. it still upsets me. but surprised? nothing really surprises me after this year :(

Are you an actor?

You know....I don’t think I love this. Who is this aimed toward — teachers? Do we think teachers don’t try to intervene with troubled kids? Students? There were students interacting with this kid, and anyway, asking students to police the behavior of “creepy loner weirdos” is how you get bullying. (And I mean, say you…

Artist here, and I despise cruelty, gaslighting mindfuckery, and boundary violations as “art”.

How much more authentic John Snow getting stabbed would have been if he had really been stabbed!

I wouldn’t think less of someone else if they hired a fully qualified, talented employee who is a recovering addict, even if that employee relapsed. Even if that employee’s relapse caused problems at work and the employee had to be let go. Giving a talented, good person who happens to have a history of addiction a…

On the one hand, I do feel a smidge of pity for some of these people. On the other, fuck them. I’m a poor white person who needs change too, but I’m also neither a bigot nor a fucking idiot so I’m really over the “poor white people just wanted change!” narrative. It feels patronizing and infantalizing. The only people…

I’ve heard a lot of people argue that modern interconnectedness and globalization will save us all from this; the Chinese can’t possibly do more than huff, because we’re too intertwined. Even if the economic entanglements weren’t so huge, the old Cold War math of mutual destruction will stop any two major powers like…

On the plus side, it’s going to be entertaining to see how the Chinese treat Trump.

Agreed. There’s nothing wrong with a cultural liking for the pomp and ceremony or correct protocol. China’s long and interesting history has tended to develop that stuff, though I think the Communists semi-officially are against a lot of it.

Ha, ha, I somehow missed the eulogy story. I’ll have to look that one up.