Came here to say exactly this and add that I am a proud feminist and secular humanist and if these motherfuckers take “humanist” away from me and make it somehow mean “sort of equal but feminists are gross” I will break some shit.

True. Also:

Read the article.

Uh, yeah. He wasn’t accused of rape. He wasn’t suspended for rape. You made a strawman.

You can stop your hand-wringing, John Doe wasn’t accused of rape.

I appreciate that I can let go of the pain I’ve been carrying around, since coercion not a problem—only violent assault. I can rest much better now, because I guess I prevented a crime, knowing that even though I didn’t want to have sex, and given the size disparity between him and me and being told that he was going…

What if you’re so drunk you need help getting out of your clothes, and you won’t remember anything? Does it matter if your partner got you that level of drunk purposely because they knew you wouldn’t agree otherwise? What if you’re underage and never explicitly tell your older partner? What if you agree to sex only…

Dude, take the advice of others on here and just close the laptop and do something else for a while.

You begged for an ally cookie and you didn’t get one, so now you’re, as someone else accurately pointed out, projecting. You’re not only “mansplaining” you’re also gas lighting and insulting people for the terrible act…

I don’t think you realize that sexual coercion is also a very bad thing and the line between it and rape can be pretty hard to find.

He did not go to jail though, he was only suspended from school for a year. I would think Columbia felt they had good reason for this- I went to Baylor where violent rapists were recruited, rewarded, and protected by the administration and football coach. If you feel like this man was unduly punished by his school,…

You posted down below about gas lighting, accusing someone else of doing that to you. However, that is exactly what are you are doing here - AND you are deflecting with ad hominem attacks designed to make us all forget that you are wrong, and doubling down. I interacted with you during the Jesse Williams fiasco, and…

He’s definitely a man. I was informed by said commenter that it’s “not relevant” whether he’s a man or a woman, because men are more likely to be raped, which is easily the dumbest fucking thing I’ve heard in months.

My brother went to Baylor. He was such a dude-bro. It makes me laugh to think that Baylor had so many rules like that on the books while he was there. The Baylor crowd I knew was way, way more wild than the kids I knew in Austin who went to UT, an evil liberal public institution...

Your reply demonstrated your ignorance of how rape reporting often works - even in environments that don’t ban the consumption of alcohol, rape victims are routinely shamed and discouraged from reporting their rape. The process, if they proceed, is then often confronting and traumatic. Usually it also doesn’t go…

I don’t care how much trouble I got in for my boozing or other activities related the school code, I would demand justice for my rape and deal with whatever consequences I would receive for activities tangential to said rape.

In 1994, at my large private university in Boston, my roommate and I called university police because a dude who we invited to our on-campus apartment tried to force her to have sex with him and when she said no he punched her, stole her jacket, and ran out with his friend. The cops came, filed a report, and promptly…

Nobody is forcing them to go to Baylor.

You have no idea what you are talking about. Zero. And you sound like a complete and utter moron, blathering on about what you would do if you were raped.

I’m sorry, NO. Rape is not “premarital sex”. If you read the article, you would have known that REPORTING A RAPE is what gets parents informed. Women who attend this college are adults and privacy laws still apply. Violating those laws is extremely unethical and, duh, illegal.

Anecdotally, it’s incredibly obvious that policies like this prevent reporting especially at religious schools but also more generally. I knew a guy who was almost expelled from our religious college for drinking off campus in the summer, so I sure as shit would never report a rape that involved alcohol after seeing…