Nah- you’re a champion. You just didn’t have the pleasure of growing up with a Filipino mom.

Hey, that’s a pretty great suggestion! Although I am worried now that I am going to need to go as Artie, Strongest Man in the World. Worried, excited. One of those.

One of the best pieces I’ve read on Kinja in months/years.

Having actually grown up in Pullman, it’s amazing to see so many people who have moved on but still care so much about what happens there because Pullman meant so much to them. I went to the PP there a few times and always felt so comfortable; it’s crazy and sad to think someone could hate that place so much they want…

I know, but THIS ONE would deal with a different disability, see? And then she can use a snow shovel for the resulting cash!

Related: Sing You Home is a national treasure. It is like four Lifetime films in a single book.

Pullman is not a large town, but Pullman’s PP serves not only the student bodies of two public universities (Washington State University in Pullman and the nearby University of Idaho in Moscow, ID), but also the a large swath of the rural Palouse region. I’d be hard-pressed to name a person I knew while attending WSU…

This guy is an inveterate MRA asshole. Don’t put any credence into anything he says, it all just translates to “I’m afraid of all women except my mother.”

If your small talk consists of guessing colleagues’ bra sizes, I suggest reading a book, or catching up on a good show via Netflix. Both of those offer a wealth of opportunities for small talk conversations that won’t get you fired.

I guess on the positive side, people who don’t understand the basic concept of harassment keep me employed. Although I’d rather be unemployed and have people be decent to each other.

I am the great boogeyman that is HR. And if you’re having conversations about your coworkers and associates like the one above, I guarantee you’ve been reported, or will be in your career (or end up in an article like this one). Uncomfortable laughter or a quick change of subject is not validation that your poor…

Dude does it matter if they weren’t talking about her like that to her face??? How does that make it okay? Is saying whatever disrespectful, rude, derogatory, racist, etc. shit you want to say about someone now cool as long as you think the person isn’t around to hear it?

I’m not being hyper vigilant about anything. I’m not advocating for this police officer to be suspended. You asked a question and invited criticism, now you’re having a hard time dealing with it.

Yeah, like, why doesn’t she take the compliment? They’d probably still fuck her if she wasn’t such a bitch too?

I started a new job at a high-end supermarket chain as a manager in their IT department, 6 figure pay, managing software developers. My first two weeks on the job were spent working in one of their stores, every department. On day one I was stocking frozen food. On day two I worked in the deli. On day three I helped…

I do this all the time. I will cheerfully take up for a waitress, a server, a checker, anyone who is being mistreated by another customer. *I’M* a customer, too, and I have no dog in the fight. I’m old enough and southern enough to get away with most of it but make no mistake — if you act like an rude asshole in MY…

‪”I feel like that is the untold story of this data leak—how many people just aren’t getting a sexual connection they want. And rather than talk about how people could solve this problem, everyone is just moralizing.”

Everyone else needs to stand up for the worker if they see shit like this, if the asshole is complaining to the manager, you should complain to the manager about that customer, and if the manager bends over backwards for the asshole, then people should tell the manager if you do that, I am not coming back. I wonder…

As others have said it’s pretty easy to say stand up for yourself from the other side. What we all should be doing is making sure if we ever see anything like this in real life that we stand up for these workers, and if these asshole customers are complaining to the mangers, why don’t we turn around and complain about…

Toxic Family

I’m 51. For 30 years I kept an immaculate house, and for 20 of those, I took great pride in it not just being clean, but stylish, a sanctuary. Also had a rad garden, and the ex and I threw complex parties for large crowds (it was mostly me). After we split, I kept it up for a while, but with my current SO, I have the…