Go ahead and put that answer out there how men going for looks is less shallow than women going for looks. Separate that from the hot gets hot/ugly gets ugly thread because those are two different topics.

Men are far less shallow than women according to your logic, but then swipe right all the time and only pick the hottest women. How is that less shallow?

I tried Bumble and got marches and never got responses to the messages I sent. It was so strange to me. Then I decided guys go on Bumble to specifically not respond to messages. I have way better luck on Tinder, even when I send messages that just say, hey (I sent better messages on Bumble).

I’d posit that part of that is because of the weirdness we as a culture have around sex and that as you get older, if you haven’t had intercourse, you feel weirder and weirder and worry people will reject you because of an experience you haven’t had. I was older than high school and felt an incredible amount of…

Our anecdata differs, then, as my teacher friends don’t brag about their time off but are hustling for work and trying to make rent and pay bills while also saving money. Which is a challenge in general if your rent is already 33 percent to 50 percent of your take home.

Some districts and school systems require teachers to live there.

Summer months aren’t paid. If the teachers are lucky, they are in a district that takes their wages for the months they work and divides it over the full year. If they aren’t, then they need to be diligent about saving for those months of no work. But those aren’t three months of paid work. The teachers I know take…

Chicago Public School teachers have to live in Chicago to work there. Should Chicago have no public schools? Teachers are taking wage cuts even with a union, expected to afford to live there to work there. Telling people to move away from their communities and jobs isn’t the best solution for either the teachers or…

Portland is there. This is not the city I grew up in, at all. The neighborhoods are radically different now. So many people can’t afford rent now, much less to buy a house. Everyone thought Portland was something it wasn’t and now they are turning it into a place where affordability is out the window. The prices are…

But what happens globally impacts the West. It is short-sighted to not recognize that these events impact us all wherever they happen. We have friends and colleagues in all these countries, representatives of our government/country... We end up in wars and other actions military and otherwise because these tragic…

Like Turkey a few days ago. This is awful. It is all awful. Every time it happens, anywhere.

I lived there during grad school and the 25 cent martinis helped me write many a paper... oh I miss that place.

If you’re getting started at lunch, and you should, the best way is to go to Commanders Palace for lunch during the week and get each of the four 25 cent martinis. Then make your way to the quarter. Drunk and fancy is always a nice way to start.

The way you describe it makes sense, I suppose. I find that interesting because I’m 40, no kids, don’t want kids, don’t want to date men with kids and yet men who you would think match my demo are just not keen. The age perhaps.

I’m so confused by that because I’m 40 and when I dated a dude in his mid 20s, it just made me feel old. I felt like I was babysitting a puppy. So much energy. And then the side eye from his friends...

Wait another 5 years. Then the 23 year Olds start sniffing around. Men your own age? Nah, still going for the 20somethings. But then the young 20s want you and it is disconcerting.

And many of them seem to want to date 21 year olds. Many. I always wonder at the 21 year Olds who want to date 42 year old men. Why?

Yes. I’ve had great success with everything I’ve made from it. Totally worth it. My copy is super stained and a little sticky, which is a good sign.

Molasses cookies with ginger chunks in them. In decently good. From the cookbook Sugarbaby. Love them.

Do you watch Crazy Ex-girlfriend? A quote from the latest episode: love is like digging through a trashcan, searching through old banana peels.