Your comment surfaced a terrible memory for me ...

My father did this and I’ve researched the shit out of it. Someone said to me that these guys see their families not as individual people but as extensions of themselves and because of that they feel entitled to end their lives and it made perfect sense to me.

My dad wasn’t violent toward me a day in my life and never had been to my mother that I knew of until the day he killed her. Just after she had told a few of us she was leaving. It’s 100% about control.

Eyewitness testimony is incredibly unreliable, even when people think they are absolutely certain about what they saw.  

Like... now I know why people really need trigger warnings. 

I have two little girls and it puts me in a severe panic thinking about it. 

((DV survivor) I’d also add the woman might be concentrating on her upcoming family,and possibly more likely to ignore red flags which would have sent off alarm bells if she weren’t pregnant. 

this pig. it’s like he is murdering her twice with this bullshit about how she killed the kids first. despicable human being.

Unfortunately, seasoned story producer here, this is all too common at many production companies. I’ve recently decided to just not do it anymore after having kids. I was getting interviews where they were like ‘we expect you to work six to seven days’ and ‘you should feel comfortable staying until 10 pm or later most…

Pregnancy and childbirth are times of tremendous change and uncertainty. This change can create opportunities: research shows that if a man is going to quit smoking at any time of his life it most likely to be shortly after his first child is born. This is likely because your lifestyle changes so much that you have…

My understanding is that it may be traced to a few things—

I can only give my opinion as a social worker who’s worked with DV survivors and their abusers, not any actual research, but I think it definitely is a control thing. Pregnancy is largely out of men’s hands. Even if he wants a child, he’s not the one growing and nurturing and bonding with that baby for 40 weeks. She…

I’m 57, with wide tastes.

My uncle is firmly in the ‘Hotel California’ destroyed rock & roll music, so he’s not a suspect either. My dad, however, is definitely culpable here. 

My dad is strictly in the “I hate the fucking Eagles” camp. He would never do this.

And more and more men are doing exactly this: pretending marriage is some spiritual journey and purposely avoiding the legal construct. This means that if they divorce the woman will not get 50% of his assets.

My big sister and her husband got married only to find out a couple of years later that the priest had forgotten to complete the paperwork and they weren’t really legally married. It was fun!

eh, my was born vaginally (is there some ther name for it?)  and considering the length,concerns and the fact that I very much wanted him there-it was and will be very important to me. The whole event would be different, I can guarantee you that. So I think it depends, from person to person. And maybe the duration of…

Vedder not Veddar.

“DADDDDYYYYYY DIDNT GIVE ATTENTIOONNNNNNN”