Why not? I generalize every time I meet a racist.

Being white means being the default, the established. You don’t have to fight. You don’t have to do anything in order to be legit and important and it’s a nice, settled feeling. Whiteness is comfort, a basic validation from get.

Thanks for your insights. (I now see how it looked like a question about romance, but it was a legit blind-spot thing and I just didn’t realize!)

Okay, fair! But yeah, business partners. And I need we three to work like a well-oiled machine. So that was my initial question—is high-functioning collaboration possible, or is her general casual ignorance a dealbreaker? Can I turn her? Because I want them both for their particular strengths. I chose them each…

Sorry; what was your relationship with the town before and after?

Oh!? I’m so confused right now.

Why? Would you react differently or your black business partner react differently? In what way? The statement was deeply ignorant and that’s very uncomfortable.

Australian racism freaks me right out. It freaks me out because it feels “settled” in their mouths, not vulnerable to reason or reality, not a process of wanting to understand anything or care further. I’m partnered with an Australian woman who just told me she would never want to go to New Orleans because “those…

Not really; if you are calm and peaceful, you have better things to worry about.