Oh yeah. There wasn’t any choice and that’s pretty clear. I’m not even a dog person and my uterus grew three sizes when I saw that face. Just look at that mug. I officially can’t wait until he gets here, to US.

I’m sure it does feel like chaos to people who are used to controlling others. What a sad, scared way of life, to know you don’t actually have any true power and that if you can’t control others, you’ll be lost. I’d freak out too! That’s gotta be a long, dark night.

It is great, but I have to pipe up about Bobbi Gibb and her ninja stylings that paved the way for that openness. She dressed in baggy sweats and a hoodie, and jumped into the throng from the bushes so she wouldn’t be discovered. (She had tried to register but was told she couldn’t handle it.) 

And just...savor this quote from the director of the association running the Boston Marathon:

SWEET JESUS. He’s beyond adorable. I don’t see how you had any other option but to adopt him immediately.

Make that plan! Get away from him. He is stealing your life. You can sock away a dollar each day, but really you need to reach out to ANYONE and ask them for a loan. 5k. You need that much to get situated without freaking out. He’s terrible and you need to go.

You are not alone. Really.

That was really brave and generous, to think ahead for your family and the potential life, and make the right choice even though it’s so difficult. I support you and am so happy for you.

Please return and let everybody know if their advice was a help!

I think he’s a good person that behaved badly there and got nasty and defensive because he’s having a hard time. He’s not a Squid or a Serious, though. I would give him much more benefit of the doubt.

No matter what you make, just make sure you start with the tiniest nibble and wait an entire hour to assess. If pain is gone, great. If not, take another nibble and wait another hour.

I think you should break up with him. You deserve space to work on your own stuff without worrying about how you’re not giving enough, and he deserves someone who is ready. And that is a perfectly legitimate way to say it, and has the benefit of being true.

Have you ever seen that Seinfeld episode about “hand”? You’ve given him all the hand, all the power. You think about how to respond, how to work around him, how to get more of him, how to get rid of him—but you are never the prime mover, the decider. And so you feel sort of helpless, which is a terrible feeling.

Have one drink immediately and then pretend you are a spy gathering information about singles events. Skulk around and enjoy the strangeness, and you’ll suddenly be having fun.

I don’t know—humility goes a long way, no matter how deep the shit. People want to forgive and go back to what they knew before; they just look for permission in the form of some small gesture of accountability.

There’s no way he’s going to the Easter Roll. He despises people.

It’s so fucking insane that they’re basically saying, “Our entire procedure is a mess and and we don’t have the proper tools for the job and we can’t ensure we’re not torturers, so we’d better rush in and kill as many people as possible in a hurried, haphazard fashion.” I wouldn’t pick a bouquet of fucking flowers…

I think these dicks would do well to take an honest pulse, because the control they knew is over. It’s perfectly in keeping with conservatism that they can’t realize change and adapt to it, but now it’s like they’re daring us.

How do people get like this? I understand the concept of “lying for the greater truth” in the absurd Mormon sense, but I’m beginning to suspect that the need to lie and manipulate others comes first, way before they find a framework that allows them to rationalize it.  

I always thought I’d *want* a correctly ranked list, but now that it’s here I feel strangely adrift.