It’s SO HARD to discuss consent and alcohol because there’s barely a wisp, let alone a line between that discussion and blaming the victim/letting the aggressor off the hook, like the Stanford case.

I knew I wanted to stop drinking after reading your book last November but I didn’t quit until after a vacation in Mexico. The final push was having to ask the guy I was sharing a room with if we had sex the night before.

Thank you for sharing. As a person allergic to alcohol since childhood, relationships are a different ball of wax, and many men are turned off by it.

This series, and this article in particular, has really spoken to me.

I’m exactly the same with the switch after three drinks. Alcoholism runs in my family, but it’s of the “touch one drop and you forever need booze morning, noon, and night” kind. I can not drink; I never crave it. I decided a few months back not to drink at all during the week. Done, no problem. I can decide “tonight…

Agree so much. When I first got sober, I also got right into a relationship (which I know, but it happened) and although it is generally frowned upon in early sobriety, it was one of the most, if not possibly THE most healthy relationship I have ever had. It has since ended, and my therapist said it was one of the…

I’ve been sober for years and think this series has been handled so intelligently and tactfully! I must admit I rolled my eyes when I first started seeing these headlines, but upon investigation I’ve been so, so, happy to read your thoughts.

But if we cut alcohol out of the conversation entirely, we miss a lot, too. There is room, and brainpower, to talk about it all.

This is so wonderful. I am not a drinker, not sure why - I have always feared losing control, I guess. I really never understood why young people drink to such excess, but I have a better sense of it now, thank you. I want my kids to read all this, not sure when they’ll be ready. Sooner than I think, I guess.

I’ve always had a hate/hate relationship with alcohol despite the fact that I went through the typical drinking stages teenagers tend to. Two of my earliest experiences were ones in which I had too much, too fast and couldn’t control myself. I wound up in bed with a guy I liked but it went too far and of course meant…

This is honestly the best series that jezebel has put out in a long time. I am struggling with alcohol at the moment. I don’t really even like drinking and I don’t like who I am when I drink, but occasionally I’ll find myself in a situation and drink too fast, too much... and then I’ll be in this shame spiral for so…

Thank you

“It’s not easy, but I don’t miss myself anymore. Sometimes my biggest complaint is that I am way too much here. But I know I have found the right person to allow close when I stop worrying so much. There is no coercion needed. No complicity drug required. The whole internal battle fades and gets replaced by a fine…