I don’t want to be an enabler, and don’t want to be disrespected.

What a strange thing for your sister to bring up in front of friends. Even the friends must have thought it was kind of weird.

My parents turned a blind eye to the actions of a sexual predator, I believe, to protect their social standing. That predator was my brother. I have no memory of the abuse, but I was also not the only victim. The rest of my family wanted to live as though nothing ever happened. They’re doing so without me. 

I’m so sorry this is the way your family treats you. I know what it’s like to want something basic as love and affection and get nothing like it in return. I also come from a fraught, difficult set of family relations, and after moving from South America to the US I can’t tell you that 1) that shit doesn’t go away but…

Your best family is the one you make for yourself, not necessarily the one you were born into.

Oh no Pumpkin Andy! I’m so sorry that your sister did this to you.

So true, so well put. I was a super sensitive kid before I became a super sensitive adult and the casual viciousness felt and feels otherworldly. I can't imagine the pit of ugliness it comes from.

As soon as I saw your avatar I said hooray! Catita is as lovely as ever, adorable in her stars! Thank you for the update, sorry to hear about the vision troubles, but I love that you are on top of all of the medical things. Have a delightful vacation, outer space and Harry Potter will be such a great getaway. Happy…

I, too, have a family-sized hole in my heart. My sister would also humiliate me, like when we were in middle school and rode the bus together and apropos of absolutely nothing, started telling everyone about my new swimsuit which was heavily padded up top, emphasizing the “padded” over and over again as if I made it.…

Evening, Jezzies! I remembered to post on time for this SNS! Yay!

y’all, between my new job changing details on me without notification (shitty) to finding out my ex bf of 11 yrs has been fully converted to the alt right anti semite crowd (HORRIFYINGLY SHITTY), it’s been a long couple weeks

This weekend ended up being a Clean The Shit Out Of Everything weekend. I was going to attend an improv night the local theater was hosting, but it was cancelled, so I took the opportunity to scrub everything in the house down. I skipped Spring Cleaning, so I’m Summer Scrubbing (Had Me A Blast...). It doubles as self…

They are using you to make themselves feel better. Cut off from them completely, and they will have no way to use you to combat their self-loathing. Can you imagine how jealous they must feel that you have the ability to completely reinvent your life while they are stuck with theirs? Once you get to your new place, be…

Here’s to healing. It’s so unfair that we’re primed to expect our born family to be our people by default, when so often they do the most damage.

Hi kitty cats! My feelings are so all over the place lately. I’ve been pretty pleased with myself, deciding to look at Panama and Peru in the fall to see which place I’d like to retire to next year, and I did my first Spanish lesson today (YouTube, muchas gracias). But now that I realize I can’t have anything but…

sinking feeling of realizing while I’ll measure up to be someone somebody could potentially admire, like, or love one day, it sure as fuck wouldn‘t be today.

I barely use FB and have a cull on Facebook every few years. I make sure that the only people I follow/am friends with fall into one of the following 3 categories:

State and Main was full of big names, including Alec Baldwin. He’s my guess.

While I would not rule out Cage, it’s actually Hugh Grant that I’ve heard nothing but awful stories about. Morgans was also the movie Grant was promoting when he got banned from “The Daily Show” for being an asshole, if I remember correctly.

Playing Elvis, which dozens of actors have, can absolutely make a career if done well. Kurt Russell catapulted himself to the A List when he did it in the 1979 biopic (he’d previously been stuck in hokey Disney fare) , and Jonathan Rhys Meyers similarly lifted his status (and picked up a Golden Globe) when he did the…