This is also more equitable. It’s work to advocate for yourself. It’s work to persuade. Simultaneously doimg more caring work and doing more equality work is a turd sandwich.

Amen to this. I kicked my ex pout 8 months ago and now we share care of our son equally. You wouldn’t believe what a capable parent he’s become now it’s all on him every other week!

Stop doing the nighttime routine. Go sleep at a friend’s house for a week. By the time you reappear, your husband will have worked out how to put your kid down. It may be different from the way you do it, but all that matters is that your kid sleeps. If he complains about being underappreciated, you can tell him that…

Anyone here the first in their family to graduate college? My family is well-educated, but my husband’s is not, and his mother has been a giant dick about his college graduation. He won a very high honor from his college that came with a special fuss over him at his graduation, when he sat on stage with other…

OMG that Tati stuff. I watched the whole video and about 8 million of the response videos. I don’t even really watch Beauty youtubers, I just like drama. 

Awful is right. On Wednesday morning I was getting dressed and went to put on one of said pairs of boots; changed my mind ’cause of his email. I’ll be wearing them again soon though!

Whoa! I was thinking, okay, that’s not awful, and then “cum” in your “high heels boots” appeared, and then I thought, that's awful.

Self-care story: At the end of a tough mid-divorce work week, I would arrange to have flowers delivered to my house on Friday. I just loved coming home to them, and waking up to the smell of fresh flowers in my house Saturday morning. It made me feel hopeful that things would get better.

You’re not wrong, but I honestly think the bulk of men have absolutely no fucking idea how demanding childcare and housework are.

Women are taught to accept the minimum. So a guy who bothers to dress and groom himself and proposes to you in an Applebees is a real prince charming you should be so lucky to have pay attention to you. While more people co-habitat before marriage, we fall into the roles we were prepared for. These women who think…

I kind of wish I felt that way. Instead, I was resentful as hell that I had to leave my baby and go back to the 40 hour a week time suck that is work and a year and a half in I still feel that way. So many of the tasks talked about in the article are things I don’t mind doing, even if it means my marriage isn’t…

Thank you. This is basically my sister. She was already the one doing all that when they were just living together pre marriage. Of course he’s an unequal partner and a shitty co-parent. And yet she still had a 2nd kid with him and is now angrier and more miserable than when she had just the one. I could see putting…

Scary Mommy blog talks a lot about the mental load of parenting and how it usually all falls on the mother. The mental load is the continuous running list of things in your head of things you need to get done or remember or whatever. Men usually don’t take on the tasks on that list nor are they aware of them. It’s…

I disagree. I think they thought they were on the same page before, but reality is a cruel bitch. It’s far easier to claim you’re a progressive dad who isn’t afraid of a dirty diaper when it’s not staring you in the face at 4 AM. Then when it does, it's even easier to pretend you don't see it as a problem, especially…

I’d just like to say, it doesn’t have to be this way. There are men who jump into fatherhood with gusto and reject praise for their household contributions. You can probably tell before you have kids, too. Did he stick you with all the wedding planning? Does he do housework like a grown up? Does he make his own…

If my husband sincerely thought that, I'd go back to work ASAP and have him stay home instead. You know, because a baby's first few months of life are such a vacation for everyone!

Especially when women continue to have more children with their shithead husbands without resolving the conflicts from the first and expecting things to be better with MORE kids.

This has been the cause of so many fights between me and my husband. My husband THINKS he is doing equal work, when I have to so much more than him. For example, my daughter’s bedtime routine is me changing her clothes, reading her a book, and then laying by her until she falls asleep (don’t judge). My husband’s role…

Lockman’s husband—who imagined her leave as “downright hedonistic,”

Never more grateful and hopeful for my future as a childless lesbian than when I read about inequity in emotional and household labor in heterosexual households.