But how can they condemn him if that’s not a side of him they experienced?

No, he was saying “I understand that privilege has helped me get where I am, but I *also* worked hard.” I think it would do a lot for the conversation on privilege if both sides acknowledged that one does not negate the presence of the other, though the ratios are rarely equal.

I don’t know why anyone is looking to Michael’s kids for a response. He didn’t molest every child he came into contact with, and the victimization covered in the documentary occurred long before they were born.  The sins of the father shouldn’t be projected onto the children and they are not obligated to answer for…

Sounds like he does, actually. He’s just still in the self-defense phase of accepting it, which is something a lot of sheltered white folk have to go through. I’m sure it is true that he worked hard to get where he is, and I appreciate that he acknowledges that his whiteness has played a role as well.

Every shelter/rescue I’ve volunteered with had a clause in the adoption paperwork that if it doesn’t work out for any reason, that you bring the animal back to us. Breeders also use this clause. Seems like a legit storyline, insomuch as RHOBH goes, that Dorit is a monster who dumps a dog at a kill shelter instead of…

that is so sweet!

My dad used to give me the messiest, craziest braids on our weekend visits. I have some truly hilarious childhood photos with what looks like an animal trying to escape from my head.

My boss has a daughter who he dotes on to an extreme degree, and he does that girl’s hair for every gymnastics meet and it is always perfection. Like, the most beautiful buns with ribbons and sparkles and nary a hair out of place on her perfectly hair sprayed head. I always want to give him a high five and a hug for…

Fuck cancer 

Does a two year old need to be camera ready at all times really? Chances are she’s going to pull it out halfway through the day any put on a headband with antlers on it from Xmas and tell me she’s Batman anyway.

My husband has long hair, and has had it for decades- so lots of practice, but even he struggles. Our daughter has super curly hair. But like, he practices. And sometimes it’s not perfect, and that’s ok. I see some women (sometimes!) undermining their SO but immediately undoing whatever they’ve done and redoing it,…

i am reading it now.  and the first chapter scared the shit out of me. i had to put it down for a couple of days.

Right? When I am stuck on a flight and some baby is crying nearby (or even if one is just there) and some parent does the whole “I’m sorry” I make a point to actually just say “I don’t care. It’s a baby. We will all live. Have a nice flight.”

Your mom is a genius and I am gonna try that out!

Seriously. I invested in noise cancelling headphones (a joy on planes, also without crying babies) and always bring earplugs.

You sound like you’re doing it right! I have tolerance of kids being annoying until they’re about 6, but if you as a parent are saying “what can you do? kids gonna kid” that’s just lazy.

Agreed. As long as the parents are parenting, what more can be expected?

You probably know this already, but bring something for him to suck on, whether it’s a pacifier, toy, bottle, or boob. They can’t pop their ears yet, which is why many babies and infants cry on a plane but sucking on something will make their ears pop and relieve the pressure in their inner ear. 

You sound like a screaming baby yourself. Grow up.

I was a deprived child. Growing up, at the kids’ table at Chinese restaurants, the natural thing to do was stick the peking duck heads on chopsticks and play Duck Fight.