There was a wonderful but sad article in the NYT recently that helped drive this point home for my partner, a young healthy person. He’s now vaccinated. It covered a set of identical twin sisters who got COVID, both healthy marathon runners or long distance hikers or something. One recovered with no issues, one died.…

I saw a similar critique like this recently specifically talking about plus sized folx (or anyone really) whose size fluctuates for whatever reason. Buying an expensive “ethical” wardrobe or constantly scavenging finds aren’t realistic options, even if you can afford it, if you slide between sizes regularly. Fast…

Our back porch used to face a Salvation Army delivery dock which was both excellent people watching by night and great to snag free household goods and art. There was a complex hierarchy of older women who had first dibs on everything, even if you were holding it in your hands. Since Salvo is super homophobic, we…

I was about to write a longer response but you already said everything that needed to be said...

Big belly laugh over here, thank you for your service.

This was my takeaway. I love Annie Clark in theory, and I love her older music, but she’s a rich white girl and the most recent piece I read interviewing her talked all about her juice cleanse and yoga studio. Not very St. Vincent aesthetic. She’s at least smart enough to know comparing her daddy’s time for white…

I love love love going to matinees - quality literally doesn't matter for me - I've gone to see Oscar bait and I've gone to see the Zac Efron Baywatch reboot. Usually I've accidentally seen most of the major nominations and this year none! I miss the movie theater so much :(

Gah! I thought it was the Gone Girl woman poorly styled and dyed.

From reading the other reports, it doesn't appear anyone involved in this incident fits the classic profile of gentrifier. It looks like a case of bizarre escalation - a child trips over the leash on accident, both parties blame the other and refuse to apologize, bystanders (?) use it as an excuse to escalate further.…

My partner too! His family are all anti-vax (just this vax...and like...flu shots) and were really freaking him out about the vaccine sending him all kinds of crazy blogs from "wellness gurus." He was still pretty anxious when he went for his appointment and the ANGELIC pharmacist spent over half an hour explaining…

My partner is the same way - we split tasks pretty evenly but he has no patience for anything resembling healthcare administrative tasks. I, on the other hand, am more healthcare literate and have a lot more patience for tedium. He did manage to LOSE HIS STIMULUS CHECK though, and he knew better than to even tell me…

Down To (Move) Furniture? An iconic woman I know used to used Tinder to get men to do chores and heavy lifting for her and then tell them to leave.

We did this for a dinner party potluck (remember those????) and it was THE BEST. I think everything came from a Turkish cookbook? I live by a little Mediterranean-inspired restaurant now that has the best mezze counter. Pandemic has been really good for my wallet because I cannot control myself in front of the…

It would 100% be just like when you catch your belt loop on a drawer handle or door knob when you're already in a hurry or a bad mood.

A friend of mine is writing her dissertation on how sharing videos of police murders retraumatizes Black and brown folks, but has no significant lasting impact on most white folks because they basically can see it, be horrified, but then walk away. There is no reason for anyone to share a video of someone being killed…

Yep! As someone mostly recovered from a stint with disordered eating, I told my nutritionist recently that any kind of restrictive diet wouldn’t work for me. I know myself and creating a lot of rules around what I can and cannot have, centered around specific “good” and “bad” ingredients is a recipe for disaster. She…

I worked the front desk at one of the grad colleges when I was an undergrad. The general rule was we had set shifts, written on a wall calendar, but we could switch with one another with mutual consent. Most of us were undergrads, but one woman was also a grad student in the program and was the worst (incidentally…

I know a bunch of people who have! But I think it’s one of those things where if you can find one the rest will follow. Some had their original relationship end, but none that probably wouldn’t have eventually anyway. And even in those cases they still remained with (multiple) other long term partners. That said, it's…

I worked a job where we regularly walked to the bar at lunch time which was when I finally realized I needed to leave.

I was so angry reading the NYT coverage of protests in Minneapolis last night - for once the police didn't escalate to violence and the piece is written as if they showed some great restraint. Sorry I'm not going to praise them for not firing rubber bullets and teargas into a crowd? For not arresting people and…