Yeah, I don't feel like blaming him any more than I feel like blaming the victims for keeping quiet. I wish he had spoken up earlier, but who knows if he'd be believed.

(Sounds like those women probably would have appreciated that outspoken pity in 1990, but, HEY, better late than never.)

A few years back (before I had children, and was an A cup), I remembering being told they had NO non pushup bras for A-cups, and they seemed shocked that someone with such inadequate beasts would not be trying to enhance them.

Issue marked Working As Designed. Issue Closed.

"Which in more lighthearted retellings of this story at parties I never let anyone forget." — I am confused — did this literally happen last night, or did this happen awhile ago?

A legion of internet trolls who were working furiously to be the first to post a "gone to merge with V'Ger" meme picture just had to delete their handiwork.

Tsk, You forgot Jesus's middle-finger, Alberta - flipping the bird to the rest of Canada sine 2006...

i feel like the north east and the west coast wanna kiss but jesus is in the way.

They don't. But they're a more useful place to direct our activism, for three reasons:

Except for criminal prosecution can take years and in a vast majority of cases never takes place at all. It is better to give students MORE options, not fewer, and work on improving ALL reporting options (making both the colleges and police get their shit together). Criminal prosecution also requires a higher standard…

I wonder how long it will be until half the profiles say something along the lines of "Not looking to cuddle, just want to meet some new people."

Why can't they do both, including coordinating with LEAs? I think schools are uniquely positioned to collect data for LEAs that can be helpful, and by managing organizations on and off campus can serve as important funnels for information in the event of wrongdoing.

Those aren't splatters, they're holes. If an item gets sun-bleached, the inside is still the same color. So, if it gets a hole in it, the holes will show that color, and look very bright compared to the rest of the shirt. Kent State sweatshirts used to be red (they're now navy and gold).

If passing the law is going to force people to either have the conversation about consent and personal sexuality... or not get laid, I have a feeling a lot more people are gonna choose to have the conversation. I feel that the law forces the cultural work.

You can't prove that you received nonverbal consent. You can't prove you received verbal consent.

I was just thinking of that last bit. I don't like any idea where women have to take an extra step or use a different space just because some men don't know how to respectfully interact with them—or worse, to avoid gender violence. BUT, I am also quite sick of cabbies asking if I have a boyfriend, suggesting that we…

Any opportunity to use my new favorite misandry GIF:

I used to write a column for Portland's alternative weekly about my adventures driving a cab at night. I thought some of you might enjoy the first one:

I wonder if some of the discrepancies between races are due to their own cultural definitions of rape. My (Chinese) mom definitely did not subscribe to the concept of rape within marriage. When I explained that my then-husband woke me up via raping me, then she was horrified, because it interrupted my sleep! And…