I don't think so. She repeatedly said she didn't want to be rude and didn't know how to react. He was her neighbor and an adult male who was helping her out. Yes, she was a fan, but I'm not sure what repercussions really needed to exist.

No people think that Thought Catalog is awful and perhaps people should look into the truth.

Uh, in that telling, she makes it really clear that he was doing all the sexual advancing on her.

http://wehuntedthemammoth.com/2014/05/07/no-…

That would be great, but we're not that society or culture yet. Nearly everyone's default assumption is to automatically assume that everyone else they encounter is heterosexual until they are told explicitly otherwise. If you're not gay and you haven't experienced this unthinking and automatic erasure of your very…

Spot on.

It's not any easier to be the one who's sick. There's a lot to be gained from the work of those who improve quality of life for the disabled. But the caretaker suffers their own level of stress and confinement. It's a very difficult situation to navigate because both deserve measures of life satisfaction. I'm not sure…

Agreed. I remember the youth group who were brought in to do a meal. So they cook it and serve it, under my supervision. Afterwards, we meet downstairs and I debrief them. One of the parents asks me... I can't remember the exact words or anything, but it basically "now tell these kids why they shouldn't even drink or…

There are plenty of people who are disabled who have nobody to care for them. No family. No spouse. Does that seem like an ideal situation? Of course not. Do people with disabilities make it work? Most do. That's what humans do. We cope with the shit life hands us. Suggesting someone with a disability is "subservient"…

1. Him making the cat dance on me isn't a euphemism. It's just a stupid couple thing we do in private bc we're cat people.

I don't understand why a supposed loving partner would want their mate to give up sex for the rest of their lives because they have a medical condition. Why would it matter if they're having sex with someone else if they're emotionally monogamous with you?

The key difference is that you would not be cool with it. That doesn't mean that he's not. What works for them clearly does not work for you, and that's okay. What's not okay is to judge people for making other choices than you would in the same position. And I say that as a critically ill person who was left by a…

I am really bothered by how many people have decided this man has no choice, just bc he is disabled. I am disabled, but can still make decisions. I can still reason, I have resources availiable to me (I could get a love in or day nurse for example- and insurance would even cover it). Why are so many people intent on…

I was watching this thread with bated breath, seeing what looked like a downward spiral between two commenters I like and respect. But you and Lilly, you guys! You figured it out and for some reason, this is kind of making my day. Thank you both.

I 100% believe sex positive means knowing what you want in sex (including not having it) and not being judged, mocked, or called names for it. You know you couldn't have an open marriage. I think that's great you know that you about yourself. There's no shame in that.

"I feel like this only works great because he doesn't have much of a choice. She is his wife and his caretaker. If he didn't need caretaking, how into this situation would he be?"

"he hates it...he doesn't want her to do it, but if he doesn't let her they get a divorce". In your imagined scenario, does he also "hate" hiring a sex worker?

this whole long interview and we never find out WHICH side she takes them on - port? starboard? this used to be a really great nautical website, smh

I think you could probably describe all relationships as "this works until it doesn't". Every relationship has pros and cons that need to net positive in order to work for both sides, and the unfortunate reality is that medical issues have created this one. Maybe at some point their relationship won't be worth it to…

I'm glad "Amy" and her husband have found their way to peace and happiness in their marriage. My comment is a rather simplistic one, but I think it is a great accomplishment for them to have discovered a place of contentment in this world.