choosinganameistoomuchpressure
choosinganameistoomuchpressure
choosinganameistoomuchpressure

This hits the nail on the head. I’ve been having the same struggle (as a scientist, not a writer). I feel decently strongly about keeping my name. And so does does my future husband. And while he’s extremely supportive of me keeping my name, he has said from the beginning that he really wants the (future) kids to have