That job might be gone, but there will be others. It is so hard, but it really can be better with therapeutic and social help. I’m lucky that I feel satisfied right now with being a Mom, but a lot of that is because my mom and brothers all have taken her for chunks of time to help us all be healthier. If you don’t…

Some of my friends with kids really like the website Scary Mommy. They bill themselves as “a parenting site for imperfect parents.” They say it’s great to have a forum to communicate with other people who don’t insist that their baby is their everything and parenting is sunshine and rainbows.

I will also second the…

You will be okay. Your daughter will be okay. There is no shame in feeling this way. I can remember many a morning, post baby, spent on my kitchen floor sobbing to my mother on the phone. I’m going to tell you what she told me: Breathe. Don’t buy into the perfect mother hype. Don’t let the shame creep in. Tell your…

Parenting is often hard, boring and tedious, but if you feel like a complete failure all or most of the time then it may be postpartum depression making you feel that way. Do you have access to any counselling or other support services where you are?

You sound very depressed. SSRIs can help. And maybe talk to the moms on Scary Mommy. Also, if you really can’t do it, give her to someone else temporarily. I’m sorry you’re hurting

1. It *is* boring and tedious, especially the first 24 months or so. It gets better.
2. You should consult a medical professional about treatment for post-partum depression. What you are feeling is real, but it’s possible there are chemical things going on in your body and mind that make it seem worse than it is.

Also, seriously, go get checked out for postpartum depression. I’m not judging or being snappy. It’s a big thing that affects a lot of people and there are therapists and support groups to help you. Also, like they said below, get away for a few hours when you can, I’ve got 2 kids (4 and 18 months) and it can make a…

My best friend in the whole world is a woman who’s mother committed suicide 20 years ago. There is not a single day that goes by that my friend doesn’t think about her mom. Holidays are especially hard for her. And it;s been two decades.