The second someone says they feel suicidal, they need help. Everything else needs to wait until he gets into therapy. All of your other concerns are legitimate and worth addressing, but nothing is as urgent as getting him into treatment.

I AM the depressed partner, woop woop. I would say that he needs to be in therapy and that is not negotiable, because he is not putting any effort into helping himself and has no coping skills for actual situations it sounds like. It’s not fair to you to treat you as his therapist and then hang the relationship on…

a.) Sometime’s when someone is depressed, they may feel lonely and like they have no friends but simultaneously they are unable to enjoy or participate in social interactions. And sometimes it can be downright painful to be in a room of people who are easily enjoying the social exchange when they can’t. Try to be…

The short answer is, there’s nothing you can do. You can’t fix him. Is your partner getting help for his depression? Is he actively trying to get better? Because if he is, you have to let him do things at his own pace. If he’s not, that’s a more complex issue.

Hey, I have been the depressed partner in this situation. As much as you love your boyfriend, you can’t be his only source of support. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to help him and convince him that you won’t leave him. This is really empathetic and generous of you. However, it won’t be enough to…

Look. Fuck Mindy Moo and her sanctimony. I am drinking a drink that is 1/4 vodka, 1/4 white wine, a splash of oj, and the rest is filled with Perrier. Thanks to my MIL. Get real and let’s talk without so much upspeak. What are you drinking? Who's house do you wanna Lefy Eye Lisa and why?

i find her incredibly badass and, all things considered, very classy. shit is flung at her and her family at an unbelievable rate and her family tends to engage, but what i hear of kim is good- she’s kind, polite and doesn’t engage. i think it’s disgusting how much people focus on a sex tape she did years ago making…

I dated a guy who had a very public on-set battle with a huge producer who pulled out that old chestnut. He was worried for about twenty minutes until another producer pulled him into a trailer and said “there are too many people in this industry for any one person to stop you from working. What gets people…

I feel like Kendall is making a pretty good go of “getting out” by at least having her own career. True, it’s a career afforded to her because of her family, but she has her own contracts, travel schedule, professional obligations, etc outside the family.

It seems extra shitty for LGBT people, who only recently got that right, to be told what so many fought for doesn’t matter.

Invisibhall is so right!! Fuck that guy in your class!! Your roommate sounds shitty too! Get the money for repairing the toilet stat. It sounds like a situation where she has the potential to screw you over when you part ways. Better to get the money now than be mad when she flakes later.

On 3, he won’t believe you any time soon. I’m working on that same sort of uphill battle with my bf, and I think what’s sort of turning the tide is that he finally got into therapy (of his own volition) and I spend a lot of time reiterating that it’s not a magical cure.

The guy in your class? If this is the first time it has happened to you, that’s awesome. It will not be the last. Practice confident shut down phrases that make use of a teacher’s inflection. The word No is awesome.

All I know is what I heard from a friend who was in N.A. — doing it just once can permanently fry your brain chemistry (not everyone experiences this.) Why not try some nice mushrooms or get a groovy friend to set you up with some LSD? Much less addictive, and you might learn some interesting stuff!

I’m so sorry to hear this. My heart really goes out to you. I struggled with severe depression and some very unsupportive people while working on my Ph.D. and it was touch-and-go. All I can say is that everyone I knew who left grad school with an M.A. survived it and has landed on their feet. Hang in there.

I don’t have any sage advice for you, but *Internet hug*

Do you ever have the urge to be passive aggressive or manipulative? I was talking to my roommate last night because while perusing Jez I came across a comment in the greys. Written by my ex. The ex that broke my heart and ghosted me basically. I had this moment where I wanted to just star it and not say anything. It…

Took the plunge and cut off all my hairs today! Went from long blonde curls to a reddish/chestnut brown pixie and I AM THE CUTEST. I’ve had super short hair before, but I was second guessing myself now that I’m heavier and have a rounder face. Well no more of that. I’m so excited to see my customers’ reactions on…

You guys! My kitten came home! I love him desperately already. I opened my facebook and the first thing I saw was an essay by a blogger I followed who had to put her dog down. So now my heart is already broken. I actually don’t really like cats and I LOVE dogs, so I thought if I had a cat I wouldn’t get that attached.…

Jezzies I need lots of love. I made a politician very very mad (I work at a gov. agency). The good news is, he’s conservative. The bad news is, he may have the power to make someone fire me. I didn’t do anything illegal and I could totally fight back if they fire me but I’m scared, but also proud I did the right…