We’re heading backwards. I normally roll my eyes when people start harping on about that, but it’s hard to interpret this as anything other than an extremely regressive (and, unfortunately, successful) move.

Wow.

I’m quite obsessed with her red dress. I have Clair’s coloring, and I’m thinking I may need to wear nothing but miles of blood red satin from now on.

I love these weird documentaries. I find them more compulsively watchable than anything else-like the thrill/horror of a scary movie, but with this extra oomph because it’s real, and almost always done in a soothing, artistic, intellectual sort of way.

I know someone who says ‘make out’ whenever she gives some guy a beej.

“He made no secret he wanted to have sex with you.”

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Nope. Nope. Nope.

I like these ads.

It seems like she’s offended by being called ‘plus size’ and that makes me sad. (If, in fact, she is offended. I could be wrong.)

This.

I agree. And I think, similar to gender violence, racist crimes, once you really examine them, are the product of a much bigger problem. It’s easier to say “She was asking for it” or “Well, he must have broken the law and resisted arrest to get beaten up by the police like that” than to acknowledge that sexism and…

I’ve definitely witnessed this more than once. The loudest victim blaming that I’ve heard from women has come from women for whom, once they tell me more about their lives, it becomes clear that they too were assaulted.

Interesting. In both cases, of rape and child abuse, the bias seems to be against the victim/accuser due to a lack of belief.

The Woody Allen scenario I find fascinating.

For Skooj-

I’m so sorry that happened to you :(

Hmm...I think you’re definitely on to something with this. Denial is a common response in the face of a problem that seems “too large to fix,” and not out of laziness necessarily, but, like you say, often out of a sense of helplessness and overwhelm.

If you do find the link to that research, please post it. Thanks!

This is very similar to my experience. When I talk about my rape (openly, like you, but not all over the place), I am met with the same reaction- so many people tell me they were also raped (often they tell me I am the first person they told), and secondly that they are shocked it happened to me. I’m not sure if the…