“He said there was a 5% chance he might be president someday,”

His twisted twin obssesions are his plot to rule the galaxy and his employee’s health.  With free dental care and stock plan that helps you invest!

I’ve been the guy in that relationship situation. probably best they divorced.

People who drag unknowing others into the closet with them are a whirlwind of toxicity. It isn’t just the sheer mindfuck of your reality being turned on its head when that person comes out - it’s all of the mindfuckery that precedes it: the projection, the gaslighting, the lack of emotional presence, the general cloud…

Perfectly said. I know that feeling as well... and I was married to my ex-husband for 24 years. This article was infuriating and ridiculously selfish.

Every response to criticism of her opinions sidesteps the criticism and goes straight to “They’re bullying me!!!! No fair!!!

Wow, taking that linked article and this one together, the author does NOT come across well. I’m now happy for the ex-husband, having escaped a relationship with such a self-obsessed, self-righteous partner. Good luck to her future partners, because she’s likely to be equally shitty going forward.

I’ve mentioned it here before, but this seems like a prime moment to weigh in as a cishet woman whose spouse came out as gay after we’d been married for ten years.

From a few years back:

Oh bollocks, went to all that trouble to keep them straight in the first comment and couldn’t in the second. I have to say the quality of my pronoun editing tends to vary based on how much I suspect the person’s identity is a function of social currency.

Yeah especially with the context that she seems relatively young so married him likely in a post-Ellen world. I feel like these days there’s a certain amount about yourself you should figure out before you get married and it’s really odd she’s blaming this guy without context

This struck me as... profoundly delusional and kind of the embodiment of the very worst parts of today’s queer culture. You fell in love with a man, married him, decided to write a book about pioneering women in sports who largely happened to be gay. All good! Love that.

You  know when you start to resent your partner not for doing anything in particular but for the simple fact that they’re not right for you, for whatever reason. What’s missing from the article is the moment you realise that it’s on you, not them, and you’re misdirecting your frustration. I assumed that’s where the…

Let me just clarify what we all know has happened. This liberal white woman in a hetero relationship, while immersing herself in the lives of these mostly queer, mostly BIPOC former athletes...completely lost her sense of identity within them. She started referring to them as “elders” and modeling her life in ways she…

What an odd piece with a lot of ambiguity. Without more info, it sounds like the author married a cishet man knowing they were queer, and presumably with him knowing they were queer, and then the author resented that arrangement for not letting them be “queer” enough despite fully knowing that’s not how queerness…

I began to be resentful of my husband, to feel suffocated.

I’m not sure there’s a strong basis for everything you’re saying-is it possible you’re filling in missing details on your own?

Is it possible they don’t seem sympathetic because they actually aren’t sympathetic in terms of how they handled the end of their relationship?

If we didn’t have a picture of the author I’d honestly wonder if this wasn’t a fake Dear Prudence style submission designed to test the tension Jezebel’s readership would face between recognizing how poorly this reads in terms of how they treated their husband but not wanting to drag a queer person going through a…

Oh this should be interesting in the comments. This almost sounds like something from r/amitheasshole.