I'm not sure if you're asking a question, or trolling. Who would do what?

Without knowing exactly what the couple asked for, or how, or why, we're reduced to conjecture in which each of us can assume either the best or the worst motivations.

I didn't mean to be condescending. You asked how it was derogatory, so I assumed that you might have interpreted the term "fetishism" differently, that's all.

I'm just saying that there's no genetic test for "race" because it's a continuum. How white is "white"? How black is "black"? What if the recipient is Kardashian White, and the donor is Tiger Woods Black?

Sorry, it's just that "fetishism" carries a negative connotation if you look at its dictionary definition:

"Racial fetishism" sounds like a far more accurate term than "cultural appropriation", yes... but it's a hell of a derogatory term when we don't even know the couple's reasoning. As for the rest of your point, please see my reply to Elle W.... I don't want to spam this group by repeating a long post.

I knew a woman of average height who went to a sperm bank looking for tall sperm donors only, because she didn't want to risk raising a short boy. Was she fetishizing tallness? Or does that just sound "normal"? Who defines "normal", anyway?

No. Neither is it "cultural appropriation" to be a white couple without fertility problems and choose to adopt a couple of black babies, as two very dear friends of mine did. Especially if you try to raise the children with as much access to their African heritage as to their European one.

The question from seoulsista was:

This makes a lot more sense than just a crazy accident.

Why do women get breast augmentation, or labiaplasty? Because they think it will make them (and/or their partners) happier.

DON'T get a magic wand. I knew a gal who bought one. No orgasm. She just turned into a frog. Those things seriously need to come with instructions.

Here's a great tribute to Alice Paul. Some of you might find the tune... familiar...

Oh, certainly, and I agree with her points — see my further response to her response (TL;DR — the real problem IMO is not that men want a bromantic partner, it's that men have been socialized to believe that women exist to "complete" them and be whatever the hell they need them to be at the moment — whether…

Absolutely agreed on all points. And assuming that you're a writer yourself (as your id seems to imply), you're probably very familiar with the Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope, which is really what comes to mind when I think about the "problem of the Cool Girl" as expressed here. And while there are MPDGs of both…

Authors often use fiction to advance their own insights about the world, through their characters. This passage seemed to resonate with Writer4003, so I was eager to read it.

Ok, please help me understand this, because it's one of these things that sounds like a profound statement about gender until you take a minute to think about it:

I'm not a feminist. I believe everyone should just do whatever the fuck they want to do provided it doesn't infringe on anyone else or their rights.

And because nothing says "you're my BFF!" like monologuing about it to someone.

In extreme cases, "wanting attention" manifests as pretty frightening mental disorders: