Purse flasks for the win! And I get to have the booze I want.

I don’t expect people to police themselves. If a person wants to use nigga/nigger in a song they are free to do so. And people are free to sing along because, ultimately, you cannot prevent people from using a word that is readily available and clearly not too problematic to use in a pop song. If you want to make a…

Right? Unfortunately once a word is part of pop culture, it can be hard as hell to pull it back. The it’s our word argument starts to fall flat as soon as it’s included in material made for mass consumption. This isn’t black music made for black people, it’s pop music made by a black person for a global audience and…

Buying black often means buying small. Once a brand goes big, the original owners usually sell out to a bigger corporation. Look at Modcloth. Used to be indie, now owned by WalMart. One of the best things about the internet is that you now have access to smaller brands and creators. It just takes a little research if…

I get that but I feel like so many people make up their minds about black businesses as a whole based on actual or reported experiences at some businesses. If enough people are convinced that black owned businesses are terrible, how are any of those black-owned businesses going to stay in business long enough to…

It sounds very grandiose and important. It definitely sounds better than buy something at that local black-owned skin care spot so they can keep the lights on.

Maybe I’m just going to the wrong (or right, depending on how you look at it) businesses but my experiences have been universally decent. I have run into service issues with one particular black-owned restaurant but I’ve also had service issues with non-black-owned places as well. I go to a black acupuncturist, train…

Actually there are plenty of black businesses, they just tend to be small rather than massive corporations. Supporting them and other small businesses may not to do much to get rid of Trump and his cronies but it is a way to create economic growth locally and to improve our immediate surroundings. You can do that…

You can’t wear any makeup by Beauty Bakerie or Coloredrayne? You can’t eat at a black-owned restaurant? You can’t buy skin products like lotions or soap from a local, black-owned business? Shockingly, black-owned businesses don’t just offer ‘black’ products. Or are you so much of a racist that you think that…

I can be believe she was never harassed. Because she likely doesn’t define what happened to her as harassment or even particularly negative. More like it was just the way things were and you either accepted it (and the roles that came along with it) or bucked the system and ended up a bit player.

Never has a word made me grit my teeth so much. I want to find the people who started this ‘woke’ bullshit and kick them in the shins.

I’ve found myself doing that with cultural appropriation. I sometimes hate it when words from a specific field move into general usage.

It can be simplified to mean ‘convincing someone that they are imagining things’, rather than convincing them that the abnormal is normal. It’s a way to invalidate an argument by dismissing the issue as made up and the person with the problem as needlessly reactionary. Trying to convince someone that the abnormal is…

That doesn’t necessarily invalidate the term. It means that there needs to be more clarity on what gaslighting actually is.

As a one time thing, it doesn’t sound like sexual harassment. Assumptive, maybe. And something that definitely could have lead to the employee feeling uncomfortable or as if her co-worker felt she wasn’t capable of doing her job. If she felt uncomfortable, she likely didn’t say anything at the time because she didn’t…

No. It isn’t. I say that as someone who has lived in and moved out of neighborhoods chock full of drug dens and disintegrating vacant properties. To thrive, communities need an influx of money and people. Money to repair the infrastructure and to invest in retail and community resources. People to provide a financial…

IKR. Look at me being a gentrification apologist.

As someone who grew up in some shitty neighborhoods, I don’t see gentrification as some sort of evil monster. I’d much rather have a legit grocery store in the neighborhood than be stuck with corner stores with jacked up prices. I’d much rather have occupied houses than living next to vacant properties. Where we live…

I know two people with husbands that don’t eat vegetables. Actual one just started eating vegetables last year because he needed to eat healthier in order to manage his diabetes. The other dude basically lives on cheese pizza, bread, mac and cheese, and eggs. I just can’t imagine that. With the first dude, I think a…

The only people who need to be careful are people who don’t seem to understand that what is appropriate at home, at the bar, at the club, or in the locker room is not appropriate in a work environment.