People that say shit like that make me want to punch the whole world in the face. They may think their causal comments on an Internet comment section are no big deal but they do serious damage by perpetuating the intimidation factor of social backlash rape victims feel they’ll face for reporting.

Perhaps our greatest scientists will discover ways to engineer male uteruses (uteri?) and men will also be responsible for carrying children to term.

No, GELLA, the world will continue without us humans one day, and it will be a much better place.

There should always be an adult in the back seat.

All those things you posit to be true? Happen in a society in which women have been unequal for hundreds if not thousands of years. You cannot say “people are” and then divorce them from the society that has made them. For example if “women are” more risk adverse, why might that be so? Might it be because women still…

But you get more flies with honey, cranky. Don’t you know that?

I remember watching the BBC documentary about this rape just a few weeks ago. One of the rapist said that they did that to teach her a lesson, that she being a girl should not be out at 9 pm hanging with a guy, that he does not feel any remorse for his act. His lawyer also said that had his daughter done something…

I had a conversation with my (really awesome) boss the other day about my “tone” and how sometimes I need to be nicer with the business people (I am an in-house lawyer). During the course of that conversation, he mentioned that two other successful female executives, on the business side, have also received similar…

I run into this a lot.

You’re both right. It is somewhat better if the song is less about a guy cornering a woman and coercing her into sleeping with him, and more about a woman who actually wants to sleep with the guy but has to make a show of “resisting” to keep her reputation in tact.

My only real response to that is if what you’re saying is true then we wouldn’t need to update older works of art (movies, books, songs, etc) at all, which I understand is essentially your point of view. I personally would just rather raise my child in a world where they weren’t exposed to cutsey old songs from an era…

See, I agree with you that functional adults should be able to separate the past and the present, but that doesn’t mean that we should keep on parroting something from the past that means something different in the present. That’s like saying that there would be nothing wrong with casually calling brazil nuts “n*****…

See, I’ve had the same argument be made towards me about that song, but in my mind it really doesn’t matter what the context of the time was. If a piece of artistic history becomes inappropriate due to changing societal norms it can still be appreciated, but it should no longer be celebrated in my book.

So why do you want to bring down successful women? If read what she wrote it is clear she cares about other women. She came from a middle class family, worked hard, and made good choices.

“The moment she gets hers”? She has “hers”. She’s actually risking “hers” by speaking up and being seen as difficult to work with. I love how you keep saying what she won’t do, as if you can see the future. She is doing something right now by starting this conversation, and giving other women the language to talk…

I also base my social awareness on reality shows. Like, have you ever noticed that every group of people contains exactly one gay guy? Weird.

Congratulations! You seem to have missed her point entirely. She’s trying to use her position of privilege, which she openly acknowledges above, to highlight the issue all women face. You talk about her privilege as if it can only be evil, as if using that word shuts down any point she is trying to make and any change…

Yep. I agree with both of them, yet the backlash that followed the Dixie Chicks was insane. Never would have happened to a male-centric band!

I don’t want to seem like all of the things that are words that that are used for women; they don’t have those words for males.