*wordless screaming*

Well written. The conversation was definitely moved forward, even if the issues around the film remain unresolved. One can sense Swinton’s educated and well-meaning yet social media-blind cluelessness. Not only is she not up-to-date on a sensitive issue, but she is also hoping her movie star-privilege and connections…

I am certain Tilda first composed her emails on parchment with a silver pen and inkwell, and it is her assistants that typed it into the computer

Yep. She was good at it, but it was standard Wise Mentor, except it was a bald white female Brit. The honest thing to say here would be: Look, they wanted a white Brit who was offbeat with a certain cachet and they didn’t want to think too hard about the Asian thing.

How is it not? She’s called on Cho to basically pick her Asian brains on diversity and racism. That’s intellectual labor and it’s a kind that people of color do for white people all of the time. I have had so many white friends come to me with these exact kind of questions, but at least they were friends. I can only…

Except Tilda does a weird, insensible thing when she says, “I’m a Scottish woman of 55 who lives in the Highlands. There’s precious little projected on contemporary cinema screens that means a great deal to my life, if truth be told.”

nope. Tidla’s emails were typical IM A NICE WHITE PERSON GIVE ME COOKIES, she literally checked off the bingo list. Maybe she shouldn’t have blasted her publicly, but I don’t blame her, mostly because like her in Trumps America I don’t really care about white peoples feelings anymore

Hot take: I side-eye anyone who dates siblings, and anyone who dates someone their sibling already dated.

For what it’s worth, I’mma go ahead and both empathize and relate to rudebarb on this one.

I will raise my hand here. I am rarely on the, "Not even a tiny bit?" side but the degree to which she emphasizes her own role in initiating makes me reluctantly wade my toe into those waters.

If she were a 15-year-old initiating with an older teacher I wouldn't be swayed. She's still 15, after all.

But she's 19 here.…

Aw, wee lamb. It's okay. You're right, this is really OMGSOHELLAGROSSINGMEOUTTOOWTFMAN.

You're allowed to be uncomfortable.

But you could try to empathize.

That's fine if you don't why to sympathize but why publicly state it? That's my point. You announcing that helps no one. Not you, not her. No one.

I guess that sympathy is nice in theory but creating an account just to comment in a way that diminishes the author's experience is very sympathy inducing. Sorry.

But this article wasn't about you and your trauma. It was about the author's. You came on here and said because of your's you had no desire to empathize or understand. I merely pointed out that's a little messed up. I have no opinion on your trauma.

Nowhere in the article was she trying to normalize this situation. I think she conveyed pretty well how screwed up it was and how screwed up she felt.

17 stars and counting.

That's great and all but why do you think anyone (especially the author) needed to know, or even cares really, about your unwillingness to empathize or understand? Not every thought or feeling you have is important enough that you have to express it, especially when it only serves to compound someone else's trauma. I…

But you have plenty of desire to comment about your lack of desire to sympathize or understand someone whose experiences were not yours. Got it. Thanks for stopping by.