I’m a feminist, I enjoy some of the rape fantasy porns, I don’t think it makes me any less of a feminist because of it, just some aspect gets me off.Lots of different things get me off depending on my mood. I don’t see how you judging me or anyone else for that matter on their kinks helps anything. All it does is show…

There are a lot of men out there. And I don’t know most of them, but it seems pretty damn unlikely that there are nearly three and a half billion rapists just walking around like it’s normal. I think it’s time to climb down from the outrage pony. It’s had a long day and is very tired. There is nothing to be gained by…

Do you think people with ‘fucked up’ kinks don’t know they’re fucked up?

I don’t disagree at all with what you’ve said. Using BDSM situations as an excuse for non-consensual behavior is a horrible thing. Rape is a horrible thing. But it worries me - even as someone who has no desire to engage in any BDSM-type behaviors myself - when people conflate what someone does - onscreen or off -…

You realize that men can have rape fantasies as well, while also not being rapists, and that there isn’t anything wrong with that, right?

So do you also think that if a woman is into rape fantasies, it’s because deep down she actually wants to be raped for real? She’s, as you say, telling you who they are? Or does your sex negative judginess only apply to men?

I’ve never seen any of his stuff, not a fan of his, but let’s remember that lots of feminists, both men and women, have rape fantasies. There’s a significant difference between actual rape (sex without consent) and anything 2 (or more) consenting adults do, even if it involves safe words and restraints.

This is the problem with feminism. We all assume we’re all on the same team. I don’t want to be lumped in with the sex-negative sort, like you.

Please, keep saying this. Say it over and over again until people get it. Sigh.

Because consensual BDSM play has nothing to do with actual rape. Many sex-positive feminists engage in BDSM without it conflicting or cancelling out their feminist politics.

Lots of women have rape fantasies. Please remember that kink shaming is not okay, and neither acting in nor viewing videos simulating rape is an endorsement of actual rape.

No. She legally committed to be the parent the moment she signed the contract. She changed her mind after insemination. I don’t know where you are getting the idea that she changed her mind prior to insemination.

Yes, it is. Ask an adopted parent if their non-genetically related child is really theirs. Then run away quickly.

If a husband and wife conceive a child through a sperm donor and divorce later on he still has to pay child support.

What a couple of ungrateful adults... It’s such a long, expensive, arduous process to go through a surrogate, and not ONCE before that point did she think, “I don’t want to do this, so maybe I shouldn’t.” It’s not even like it was her body she was doing this to, so maybe she felt some sort of disconnection from the…

She signed a legally binding contract prior to insemination. One can’t “withdraw consent” from that. The boy is her child.

Assuming there was a legally binding contract in place prior to insemination (which this ruling as well as multiple stories about the case indicate there is), it very much is her child.

Surrogates cannot also be egg donors. It’s because back in the day a surrogate refused to give the child up claiming it was 1/2 of her and I believe she won.

Yes it is. She signed the contract to be responsible for the child.

What did the surrogate ever do?