I haven't. I'm just active in my local BDSM scene. I'm a college student and I'm actually hosting a discussion about BDSM later tonight as part of my school's LGBT club. The kicker is that the email sent out to the club said we'd be talking about "BDSM and 50 Shades of Grey." I wasn't planning on mentioning 50 Shades,…

That's understandable, and I don't think any criticism of the book has anything to do with women finding their sexual awakening. It's just that BDSM is portrayed so badly in these books that there's no way it can be considered an accurate representation.

I think we should be more disgusted by the over use of inner goddess and lip biting more than anything. The other words used are just some deranged woman's fantasy of what BDSM is. I somehow doubt EL James ever partook in BDSM.

Here's what bothered me about this whole thing. I was a Twilight fan fic reader (sue me, we all have a "thing"). There is stuff out there that is 40 million times more well-written and infinitely hotter than this tripe. It just pains me that this is the thing that broke through commercially. Tragic.

"I think she likes sex already."

No, but I'm gonna leave it.

They are also new agey old-man assholes who use it as an excuse to hit on young women. See: "To be perfectly and radically honest, I feel attracted to you right now".

"To be perfectly and radically honest I could not give less of a fuck."

Yeah, this guy is a big liar and is projecting it on to other people like whoa.

Yeah, my boyfriend will tell me if something makes me look fat-I don't know why anyone would want someone who just lies and tells them they look great.

I worry about this article—it feels like a great way to make people like your friend feel justified in lying.

Hon, those are the kind of things you should be able to be honest about with the person you love. You should be able to say, "I'm not feeling it today, please knock it off," and have that respected.

I even tried to be really generous, and I still couldn't make that be true. That is an insane amount of lying. That is too much lying. Assuming you are only speaking half the time (quite possibly untrue for this guy, but let's go with it), that is a lie every 2 minutes. What is wrong with you?

I'm totally with you on the 'no patience' front, but maybe taken a notch further. I have enough going on right now that I feel like I CAN'T lie. Like, I do not have the cognitive space for two alternate versions of an answer. If a small lie was useful I'm sure I could manage it (ie. the surprise party scenario) but…

Lying takes so much energy! Also, why lie about a lot of little stuff- who fucking cares?!

Yours is a noble destiny. To be a Truth-Bearer is to be alone.

My friend lies all the time in general and especially to her man. And honestly, I think their relationship is doomed because of it. She lies about the smallest of things and does stuff that she KNOWS is questionable. Recently something questionable she did came to light and instead of being honest about it, she called…

Such sage wisdom he provideth.

I have full confidence that my boyfriend would tell me I look fat if I asked him such a question. #notallmen

Oh I was HOPING for a post on this. Because really, isn't it just beautiful that a philanderer who views lying to your partner as an essential and caring way to express love in a relationship completely fails to connect that to the fact that he has been married THREE TIMES?