Two things: I agree with everything this essay says. Sebold was clearly traumatized as hell by this rape AND complicit with a racist system that offered her a black man (any black man) to make her feel safer and vindicated. And she needs to own that. She was actually pretty open about her uncertainty in the book, the…

I was raped as a preteen. I’d already experienced several instances of sexual violence, some with boys and one with a man. But looking back that shit was ubiquitous. One of my friends had a kid hold a knife to her throat until she let him grope her breasts. She wore loose tops for the rest of middle school after that, …

This. 100 percent this. Looking like a wannabe motorcycle gang member while chairing the senate (and checking your look in your phone) is a choice. And it’s a statement. A jean jacket with the sleeves cut out (or a store bought vest that sports that look) worn while presiding over the senate would have elicited…

Ok, I would try that shit. But only because I love peanut butter. 

I so agree. I don’t know these people but when I do know a person who is married and seems happy and then is getting a divorce and a new partner and kid all at once? I mostly feel like it’s not my business, unless the left spouse is a good friend in which case I do all the supporting friend things as required, because…

My mother used to make her own cranberry sauce which people come from around the town for. But I love the canned stuff so she always has both. Yummy!

Love the deviled eggs. My niece makes the best ones.

The worst thing in the world is having someone prepare classic dishes in “unexpected” ways or introduces brand new dishes for the first time on Thanksgiving. Do you have a good dish that is time tested and delicious? Bring it in. But don’t launch some damn oyster stuffing you read about in the NYT cooking section and…

I agree. There is no personal style with this one, no through line to her clothes. Like, I can look at an outfit and say to myself “That looks like something Katie Porter would wear.” or “That’s a Nancy Pelosi look.” or “That’s an AOC outfit.” That’s because most people have clothing preferences, colors/cuts/similar…

Are you a coastal elite, Starve?

Last election cycle I heard how people liked her and her positions (which she has since curtsied her way out of). So, odd. Don’t know who you listen to, of course.

Actually her poll numbers are plummeting among dems in Arizona. The good news is that she is polling better with the GOP voters in AZ. Unfortunately many GOP voters in AZ (while they like her better than they did before) say they will not be voting for her as they will be voting for the as yet unnamed GOP candidate.…

Ditto on the housing grab. I notice that a lot of people who use AirBnB talk about supporting the “little guy” but in a lot of cities the majority of AirBnB renters are not little guys renting out space they own but corporations that have bought up properties just to do this. No thanks. 

He’s nowhere near that place. The parents have been less than honest. They know the van was hers. He comes back, no fiance and in her van. Her parents are looking for her and his parents don’t do one thing but get a lawyer. They knew what he’d done and they picked their side. I believe nothing they say.

Yes, and I understand that the Van was her van, so he returned with her van and used her debit cards. If they had taken this seriously they could have arrested him quickly because the debit card use was there to see and the picture would have shown him taking the money out. They didn’t arrest him because they didn’t…

She’s not a Boomer, she’s GenX. Which is actually surprising me, but nope. Born in 1976. 

I also think she has an old man fetish. I’m not kidding, I feel like she spends time with old white guys, voluntarily. I don’t know if it’s father figures, grandfather figures, or what but she’s trying to get their approval.

She is a social worker but I thought it was actually about fundraising?

Spicer never really turned on Trump so he’s welcome on the right. He’s still terrible. The only reason we didn’t get to see him do even worse is that he looked foolish and was imitated (beautifully) on SNL by a WOMAN. Trump could not handle that, Spicy had to go. But if he’d stayed? He would have done everything Sarah…

I don’t even know what procedural language is, I mean, beyond the look up I just did. But accuser sounds, well, accusatory. So I get her hair split on this.