Also, aren’t all of the rumors that Downey anonymously comments online (like on CDAN) trying to expose shit like this without it coming back on him and damaging his career?

Yes, yes, and yes. We can’t let the normative beauty police steal a good word like “flattering.” When I was on the cusp of plus-size clothing, I considered something flattering if it was my colour, if it worked with my body (not hid my body), if it didn’t pull or look cheap and ill-fitting. Not to derail the…

I’m with you, girl. I am on the cusp between straight and plus sizes, but often find that a 14W fits my proportions (mostly tha boobs!) better than a 14 does. I wear dresses to work almost exclusively, and I want things that fit my bust properly, are made from substantial fabric, have shoulder straps or sleeves that…

People do not see the violence of being forced to cover up as equal to the violence of being forced to uncover. Mostly, I agree with you-but I think I am able to understand you because I have experienced oppressive gender based religion. Many people do not know how traumatic modesty codes can be for those who are…

I wonder if people who have had extensive exposure to “modesty cultures” will better comprehend your point. For many years after adolescence I experienced a distress when around people of my religion-because I understood how their dress-code was a direct statement about the sinfulness of my body. I experienced…

When I think of things that aren’t boring, I definitely think of internet memes of white men with male pattern baldness and leather jackets. Fonts of cool, really.

right back at you, friend.

Because they aren’t not fighting Zika, so they can press palms and they aren’t on vacation. They aren’t fighting Zika because they are dysfunctional.

I wouldn’t be surprised if it was a pretty common problem that it’s pretty clear based on the syllabus (even if it’s not outright said or listed specifically as a trigger warning) but people still complain. I knew a couple of kids who were up in arms (and warning people not to take a certain prof’s class/trying to get…

Office of Disability Services. Every university has one. Friend of mine won’t discuss a trigger warning without their involvement and respects any that come from them.

I have literally never been in a class where violent rape was discussed where it was not extremely clear from the syllabus and class description.

I wish I was a cool kid. I’ve been on Gawker and Jez for years and have never been let out of the grays. Nick Denton followed me for a while (I have no idea if that was actually him or just a spoof account) and then unfollowed me.

No, I meant the opposite- I meant that you’re right, often the attractive waitstaff ISN’T competent or engaging. So when I find a place that has a waitstaff that is all 3, it’s bonus points in my book.

PREACH! The “suspicious timing” argument irks me to the core. I remember when the debacle around Bill Cosby began to unfold and the conspiracy theorist were talking nonsense that the “accusations” only came out because he was “about to purchase a network”. NO, these are not instances of social stratification and…

I understand that people can have those views because of the racist trope of the black man as a rapist and sexual sadist. I don’t even know how to feel about this because the young woman is dead (I’m sure being raped AND followed by these two didn’t help) but the mind is quick to fall into that trap of but should this…

nuuuuuuuuu!

You don't know how Gun Free Zones work. They aren't a magical realm where guns stop working; but they are a place where if you see a gun then you can be sure it isn't supposed to be there and can react appropriately. Contrast this to places where people Open-Carry and you have to debate whether this person is a threat…

Jezebel floated the idea of discussing the charges when the trailer was released in April, and didn’t.

The right to be believed doesn’t dictate personal behavior. It’s a standard for police investigation and public reporting - the idea that any alleged rape is likely true and should be investigated and the victim supported. It doesn’t mean that a woman must believe the word of a stranger over that of her husband and…

My eyes keep coming back to that mustache/sideburn combo on the officer on the right. He’s the rookie, clearly, but the focus isn’t on him. It’s on the guy behind him, turned away from us, his veteran partner with the paunch. He’s affectionately called Paunchia della Polizia by the other officers, which he gamely…