My friend has never been apart of the gaybar culture. (I've been in more bars than he has..) He embraces his feminity, we drink cocoktails and sing and dance together, but he has never called me a ho,bitch,or a slut even as a joke and I in turn have never called him any of those words..we talk about real things and…

This, ALL OF IT, needed to be said. As a token lesbian to a decent group of gay male friends, having also worked in an environment dominated by gay men, thank you. Like lots of things, sometimes people need things spelled out for them.

It's juvenile to excuse misogynistic behavior through sexuality.

I see your point about fair play - there will never, ever be an honest, lengthy article on (for example) issues regarding women and LGBT individuals in certain black communities on Jezebel.

Whaaaa? Nooo, that is not what I meant. He was already out when we met. But he lived with his parents and wound up spending time at my place a lot because he could just be himself and sometimes bring guys over to hang out with. He'd brought this one to my cabin for the weekend, we were hiking (me, my then fiance, him,…

While I cherish my gay friends, this article perfectly encapsulates why those I have I made years ago, developing few meaningful relationships with others in the 8 years I've lived in the "mecca," San Francisco. And, why those I have felt close with all felt the need to escape the Castro culture. This was so helpful…

Did it REALLY take until 2014 for anyone to figure this out? I mean, don't get me wrong, i enjoyed the article, but it felt a lot like "misogyny 101", and i think it could have been way more incisive. Why don't we even TALK about lesbians, or trans people? Why are there only white "queers" around me? Why is my body…

...I didn't even know there were gay MRA's.... but judging from the number of, "but women treat us worse so it's okay!" there obviously are.

This is sort of the opposite, though isn't it? It is calling out the behavior and the attitude rather than the whole minority itself. Can we have any intelligent discussions about patterns of misogyny and their origins, or does that mean we're making blanket discriminatory statements about cultures/groups of men?

Yes! I really hate how we treat gay people like if they were these magical, liberal, open-minded, non-threatening people. It just makes it easier for them to get away with sexism, racism (which is rampant in White gay culture), and classism.

This article is wonderful—it's really great to see someone calling out the stereotypical gay culture for their treatment of women and "it's okay because I'm gay." Hell, I saw a gifset the other day of Perez Hilton asking Heather Morris what it'd feel like if he rimmed her, all while she had a horrified look on her…

Thank you for this. My gay guy friends are so sweet and lovely, there was a time this would have really confused me. Until I moved to a section of my city with a large gay male population — the smirks, the sneers, the take-out sandwich with avocado that had turned black — I could not believe the amount of hostility…

I think it's good to discuss problems within certain communities, but it's also important that we don't use those problems as justification for bias towards them. For example, Asians have some of the worst racist attitudes. I like discussing that, and I can do so comfortably because I am Asian. I also don't mind when…

I have to admit, this was painful to read. Years ago when I was in uni I (a bi girl) dated a bi guy, and this article reminded me of him so much. He was very active in the local bi and gay social scene, and while I used to chalk up the way he treated me as just being badly and probably something learned from mum and…

Lots of love to you <3. I also have had to end long-term friendships for similar reasons. Never gets easier. In some ways losing the love and companionship of an old friend is worse that that of losing a romantic interest.

Actually, you know, people are fully entitled to "bitch" about being treated unfairly, no matter where they are.

When I used to frequent the LGBTQ center on campus, I noticed that the space was dominated by white gay males. Of course, there are lesbian- and gay- and trans-specific sub-groups that met as well, but none of the non-gay-male people would show up to the general body meetings for the "main" group. I stopped going to…

I appreciate this. But I also take solace that misogyny by gay men, or the objectification by straight women of gays as accessories, is not 100% universal. I'm thankful that I have people in my life who don't fall into these stereotypes, although unfortunately I also know far too many who do. Some guys get it, but…

I worked for an older gay man right out of college and was astounded when I realized that he vehemently hated women. He surrounded himself with women and used every opportunity to make himself more powerful by cutting them down and treating them like shit. Eventually, the vitriol turned to me as I rose in the company…

Seeing as how the author is a gay male, I don't see how the "Uhh...durrrr" applies.