What annoys me, especially with my father’s Krazy Khristian side of the family, is how my family’s obituaries always contain when and where the person “dedicated their life to Christ,” even if they “got saved” when they were a brainwashed child of 12 and turned out not to be a regular churchgoer as an adult. Even the…

You are so right. I was lucky that my mother (the main custodial parent) was the “unfun” one who insisted on vegetables, chores, and bedtimes. My father and his wife thought they were those parents—very firm believers in “discipline” and “respecting your elders”—but instead it was a lot of judgment, disrespect, and…

It’s more than a monument, it’s a cautionary tale.

I’d be so tempted to put up an explanatory sign right next to it.

So, in my neighborhood this dude freaked out when his girlfriend tried to break up with him, held her hostage, cops came, he led them on a high speed chase which ended in suicide by cop... his family without getting permission or asking anyone erected a huge rock memorial with a plaque at the entrance of our running…

My God, this spoke to me. My father was extremely neglectful after my mother died and I grew up so pained by it all. Now I’m in my 30s, still putting off motherhood and just focusing on nurturing that little girl. I’ve never been able to put my feelings into words but this is it. Thanks.

“Very active in his political group..”

Holy shit. I see that “quick-witted sarcasm” didn’t skip a generation. That line “and I’d be happy to pen your obiturary, too.” sounds like such a gracious threat of murder it gave me the vapors. lol

You’re so right. The killers in murder suicides or who get taken out by the cops after shooting up a bank/theatre/library, etc.,  aren’t they always inevitably - and in spite of all evidence to the contrary - “honor students”, “such a quiet guy”, and “planning to go to college [age/ existence of high school diploma…

Wow, this is incredibly relatable on the day we “honored” my MIL. Every glowing review of her made me wonder, had I known the same person? And as we left, my husband said that while he felt for his siblings he had no recollection of her in line with theirs. I knew her as an abusive, hateful, racist, judgmental old…

I’m so sorry for your friend. If she’s still in treatment, she could definitely use a good friend like you. A suggestion: ask her what she needs, but also consider offering specific help. Child-minding, so she can get some rest after treatments. Offer lifts, to her or her kids. Drop off frozen meals. Do some laundry…

Definitely ask her what she needs! Maybe watching the kids for a day depending on how old they are so she can breathe and grieve. Or consider bringing her some meals to put in the freezer a few weeks from now! People tend to send food in the days after but it kind of peters out after a while and needing to cook for a…

Ask her what she needs. You’re a good friend, so just try to keep being there for her. :)

“I am happy for those that simply do not understand, this means you had good parent(s)”

This is excellent. I wish more obits were like this. A few months ago, a young woman was killed in a murder-suicide by her abusive stalker ex-boyfriend down the street from me. His obit talked about what a great guy he was and how dearly he would be missed, and made no mention of what he had done. UM WHAT THE FUCK.…

This is my personal favorite. From the Sedona Community Cemetery, Sedona, Arizona. And it is real.

I admire this family for their honesty. A lot of families in similar situations who go through the charade of pretending the deceased was a nice person when their life ends and in some respects that can be painful and disrespectful to the victims.

This woman is bad ass and I’d like to take her out for a drink of her choice