In this universe, I have a spouse and am poor.

Yeah, like ok maybe technically it is sex work, when sex is involved. But I really didn’t expect the “BUT YOU’RE A WHOOOOOOOOOOORE” comments.

This. I clean up very well but I honestly look like a bridge troll without my hair product and make-up (curly hair and acne scars). I was a college athlete and when I was in my absolute best shape every time some guy touched me or made comments about my body my reaction was kind of like “This isn’t for you, this is…

I am 26. I’m above average attractive, well-educated, and have an above average income for someone my age. Like 95% of the guys I meet are terrible and think they are entitled to my body simply because I exist.

Yes you should get the potential of a long term relationship, emotional companionship. But like the author, I have been on the dating apps and yes man men there ask:

DANG. This is the most judgmental comment thread I’ve read in my years here. Guess now I know what gets Jezebel’s collective back up.

There’s more to your comment though. Why are sugar daddies mostly men? Because they have benefitted from a system of misogyny and devaluation of women. So, without misogyny, the sugar daddy/mama world looks much more balanced, and becomes much less of an issue. 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is an interesting article. I actually know some Sugar Babies who do identify as sex workers. It really just depends on how you define yourself, or whether you see the dates more as “dates” or “work.” And yeah, sugaring for shoes and bags is amateur level, the most successful SBs in my circle are getting their…

It’s a constant balancing act!

100% agree.

Admission: I tried SA for a while when I was panicking about being unemployed and figured, hey, I’m a really progressive kind of woman, I have notches under my belt, I bet I could basically do this dating for money thing. Here’s my personal experience. It of course might not reflect others’.

Sorry, totally off topic. But that photo of Jenn has me rolling.

I don’t think that’s a bad thing. My husband started with negative dollars, but his career has done better than mine and both our lives profited. That’s what happens when you fall in love. In this case, both parties are being up front about what they can offer. When I was young and painfully broke, less broke dudes I…

Congratulations on your happiness(I know it looks like sarcasm because the internet but I mean that sincerely!) but just a heads up that I’m pretty sure pocketing a thousand bucks a week in cash as part of a business arrangement is tax evasion and if you’re constantly depositing identical large sums of cash into your…

Oh man, in a universe not too different from this one I would totally be a sugar mommy if I had the money.

This touches on so much of my own baggage. Like, it still takes a crapton of cash to look like the girl next door for most of us, ya know. We’re supposed to strive for the effortlessly beautiful vibe. Just the right amount of attractive. But, unless you are extremely genetically gifted, it costs a lot of money to get…

I went through an excruciating break up last year with my long term boyfriend and had completely given up on the idea of dating/love. It sincerely exhausted me. After hearing some acquaintances stories about their SD’s I was intrigued. Extra $$, travel & a business mentor sounded excellent.

If someone were to look at my relationship with my wife, a cynic could say that she dated me for the exact same reasons why a sugar baby wants a sugar daddy. I was a bit older and making significantly more money than she was at the time. We ate at restaurants she could never afford, we went on vacations she could…

I have NO beef with this concept. We have a list of needs to be met, and we want someone to meet those needs. Knowing yourself well enough to define what that should look like is fine.

The podcast “Death, Sex, Money” just yesterday published an episode about a woman who is a Sugar Baby to cover her college loans, and no lie...I’m kinda thinking about it...