See DameB's explanation in an earlier comment thread about giving a "soft no."

I love that. Where does it come from?

No. Not everyone experiences the same level of harassment that she did. Every woman does. And that's a problem.

Good call. From the original headline writer: "I was fully aware that the phrase “women of color” normally refers to women of ethnic origin. Many have criticized me for being too naive to understand the phrase. Even though I’ve spent most of my life living in Utah and Idaho, I’ve visited 32 states and been around the…

It depends on the coach. Some of the stricter coaches require that you have at least a 2.5, but most don't. And they have a staff of thirty and a nice separate tutoring center in case you're having any trouble.

As I understand it, the way the rules are written, college coaches aren't allowed to TALK to recruits in high school before their junior year. However, that does not exclude showing up at their school to watch them play (and maybe justify it by talking to their coach or someone else on their team). It also does not…

HAHAHAHA. I love the part where you think that growing bodies of evidence will have any effect whatsoever on modern discourse about something. #climatechange

Am I the only one who's a little bit disappointed that the only thing so-called social justice apps/websites ever do is ask me to sign a petition (i.e. harvest my information for their database)? Surely there are more meaningful actions we can take in response to sexist advertising.

That's not a staff photo. That's from some Utah magazine that wasn't aware of the implications of what they were doing.

Yeah, they aren't as bad as you're assuming. 1970 was a long time ago. My experience comes out of counseling through similar organizations, and none of the materials we worked with were designed to reinforce gender stereotypes. I think the only way you'd run into that problem now is if you had a…

Amen.

My pre-marital counseling was shit too. When you don't have a program/set of evidence-based practices to follow, it usually comes down to some random person's opinions. Like anything else, before doing marital counseling do research to find one that's well-respected and not crazy. PREPARE/ENRICH is the one folks…

As I understand it, the Catholic pre-Cana is a program designed to encourage communication, develop relationship strengths, and help make sure that both partners have discussed major relationship hot spots (in-laws, money, sex, religion). And I'm guessing its a reference to the wedding at Cana, where Jesus turned…

That's a really interesting question. Like if both partners were Jez posters or whatever, and one or both was posting about how their ex mistreated them. I have no idea how to manage that. If both of them created new identities that would involve losing a lot of contacts and effort (unless they told their old…

that actually sounds pretty bad. Sorry that happened to you. Glad you're ok. Hope he doesn't have any more victims.

There are some pretty solid evidence-based pre-marital counseling curricula out there that do have proven records of improving marriage outcomes. Encouraging people to do programs like that is a good thing, which is why Texas waives the marriage license fee for anyone who takes an approved one (though their approval…

There's an ocean of difference between happening to discover that someone is trans in the process of an investigation and deciding to publish that fact in a major national outlet all while bitching about how being trans without wearing a sign identifying yourself is lying. Even if it was absolutely necessary to the…

One of the things that I do that helps, is I mention my significant other early in pretty much all of my conversations. It keeps me from being tempted in any way to feed my ego, and it keeps new relationships from getting awkward.

I think I'd find that hard to do emotionally, because I see shared child-rearing as a particularly romantic thing. Then again, I guess the point is that we would raise children who don't have that particular hangup. It would be interesting to see how that would work. Would you live with your parenting partner or your…

This is a great demonstration of why the government shouldn't be involved be privileging one type of interpersonal contract/relationship over others. Let churches issue whatever kind of certificates they want, and quit giving tax breaks/insurance claims/whatever based on who signed what type of interpersonal contract.…