Are you okay?

Wow. I stand in abject awe and respect of any woman who had an experience like some of those described here, and kept gaming despite it. Holy shit that’s some courage.

One of the really notable omissions.

Yeah, the Fionavar Tapestry series was the first time I read a book that tried out the same premise Song of Ice & Fire eventually made famous: "Yeah, if this stuff was really happening in the world where you lived, you wouldn't think it was so fun."

Yeah, when GRRM started getting all this praise, I immediately thought "Kay's been writing richly developed main characters and killing them off left and right—often in settings so close to actual history you can almost see where the serial numbers were filed off—since the mid 80s!"

Where the hell is Guy Gavriel Kay on this list? You don't get more real than blending history with fantasy the way he often does. Maybe a bit light on anti-heroes, although the protagonist (POV character?) of the Byzantium books is a mosaicist who witnesses the events more than moving them. What is quite impressive in…

Interest level exceeded. (Something I intent to incorporate into my daily life.)

so many wonderful bit parts! Jerry Minor, Dean Norris, Kieran Shipka, Horatio Sanz...

I love that Titus was the dramatic stage name the character chose once he moved to New York, but then you realize the actor's name is ACTUALLY Tituss. Two s's. 10/10, would realize again.

I had a coworker years ago that would make gay sex jokes daily until I mentioned he talks about gay sex a lot... he was quiet after that.

Good point about the self-hatred. Not only are there bi-curious men, you also have men who have sex with men who don't consider themselves gay. The mainstream tries very hard to make any homosexual behavior unacceptable.... no wonder some men stay in the closet.

I see - I understand where you're coming from and it makes sense to me. If you're raised to see LGBT in a negative light, it makes sense that you might come to despise yourself.

Back in the day (the seventies for me) people didn't understand what homosexuality was. Like AT ALL. It had something to do with liking the same sex, but that was only part of it. There were suspicions and whispers of other deviancies like paeodophila or zoophilia being involved. Im sure if you go even further back in…

I feel that it's very much related to the concept of toxic masculinity and the cultural subtext that (other) men's penises are dirty and they spoil the things they touch. Gayness doesn't fit into our preconception of men as sexual agents instead of sexual objects, and it also creates a fear in some that they will be…

Some things may best be left between you and your therapist.

I wonder if all the people on here bitching about narcisim would say this to someone who has PTSD from seeing the WTC on 9/11. Would you go up to them and say "it didn't happen TO you!". Or soldiers who have PTSD from being overseas (a lot of them never actually saw real action). My boyfriend has PTSD from military…

I think it's an excellent thing to talk about two things that many people who work who work in health fields or disaster relief or other types of international work involving violence and displacement have had to deal with—compassion fatigue and vicarious traumatization. I haven't worked in disaster relief but I have…

First- gaze upon my favorite birthday card ever!! A friend I worked with made this for me. I will always treasure it.

I actually knew my wife for about 2 years before we started dating. If someone had told me we would end up together I would have laughed in their face. "Made of malice" was the term I used to describe her back then. She had a reputation for being sort of surly and stand-offish.

showed up in a domo costume