I know, right. I matched the description of the person who buys clothes occasionally, combining thrift and real stores, but that number was WAY more a year than I spend. The minimalist, I-don’t-buy-clothes, number was $2,000/yr - which is like $160 a month on appearance! I don’t spend anywhere near that, certainly not…

Yeah, I actually had sort of the opposite reaction as the OP upon reading that number. Like, I don’t know how tall she is. And I think she’s gorgeous btw. But I was like... oh... she’s only 160? I would have put her at 170-180 so I guess I’m a lot chubbier than I thought! Since we’re around the same weight. And I…

Totally. I’ve said that to my fiance. That I have no doubt of his “goodness.” I wouldn’t have said that my exes weren’t “good” people, and it’s not like my fiance is perfect, but there’s no question that his heart and intentions are in the right place. I’m not sure I could have said that of all my past loves.

We’re pretty early on in the planning of our wedding. Luckily, we see pretty eye to eye on our vision for the thing and we’ve both been coming up with ideas for what we want. But I think I’m going to be the one to handle most of the logistics and... is it fucked up that I want it that way? I like control.

Me too. More really.

Hey-yo! My ex also posted untrue, nasty, career-damaging stuff about me on the internet having to do with drugs/sex after our breakup. Luckily, I never sent him pictures - maybe I always knew in the back of my head. It wasn’t a direct response, I guess, but it was subsequent to my engagement to someone else. It was…

YES. I’ve taken over the kitchen and greatly reduced redundancy there. But my fiance is a techy tinkerer sort so it’s all big expensive equipment and little wires and cords that he might need someday! And it’s frustrating because he actually DOES use that weird little thingy he set aside back in college that you just…

I’ve been thinking about this more than I should. I think Caitlyn was purposefully chosen to both connect her with her family and distinguish herself at the same time. Lots of people spell the name with a “K” these days and it always has a hard k sound. So she still fits in with the krew. But not entirely, she’s her…

I’m also a 30ish Caitlin. Traditional Irish spelling FTW!!

Chili’s a great suggestion. My basic chili “recipe” is jar of salsa, can diced tomatoes, can of beans (black, kidney, even chickpeas; alone or in combo), lots of cumin, something spicy (cayenne, chili powder, sririacha) - and ta da! And you can add basically any vegetable you have lying around. If you have enough…

A puttanesca-style pasta is one of my tastier pantry meals. Canned tuna, canned olives/capers, canned diced tomatoes, spices, dry pasta.

Pink cars are least likely to be stolen. FYI. I might have learned that here.

You don’t lose the right to face your accuser. But there’s no right to face your accuser on a particular day. Court appearances can get moved for all sorts of reasons. They may throw your case out rather than bothering to reschedule for a minor traffic violation, but rescheduling is well within their rights.

I don’t believe I know those other songs, but even though I find Girl Crush catchy and somewhat clever, I quite DISLIKE it from a feminist perspective. When I first heard it, I was like - wow, awesome, a representation of homosexuality in country music?! Then it gets to the twist. Oh, so we’re just playing to the…

Maybe this is obvious to everyone, but I only recently learned that when my lips are dry/chapped it’s a sign of dehydration. I’ll notice that my lips are dry before I notice thirst sometimes. I had previously thought it was just random or winter or the air, but - duh - it’s directly related to how much water I’m…

I don’t have irrational negative feelings about any name. But if you’re a “Mark,” you are probably my soulmate.

I’ve only recently started listening to country music so I’m no expert, but I found myself saying like literally yesterday to my boyfriend that I don’t seem to like the country songs sung by women. The men are all singing about celebrating these beautiful small moments in life, having a beer with your friends after…

You can recreate the legal protections of marriage though contracts, domestic partnerships, etc. If it’s purely functional to you, why get “married”?

My parents didn’t use a leash and I think they are weird, but I am more sympathetic to the idea after reading everyone’s stories here.

You’re very angry about this and missing the point. There are a lot of things that could be potentially upsetting that we allow in public spaces. But our social contract also incorporates a belief that people have the right to self expression, which we balance against the right for people to not be…