When I was a kid my mother made homemade fortune cookies for my dad. She was pissed at him so the fortunes said things like “You’re an asshole”, and “kiss my ass”.  She'd toss a couple in his lunch every day.

I went to a bar once that had a sign in the women’s restroom that said “if you are feeling threatened by a patron at this establishment, approach a bartender and say “Godzilla” and we will make sure the patron is removed.  

Thank you for this, but mainly for the phrase “pasting one on the snoot.”

When you see someone in trouble, the training helps you to intervene, and not just turn a blind eye. Most people would want to help, they just don’t know how.

+10000

I bet he’s not wearing a cup! He must WANT you to karate chop him in his junk!

So I should karate chop you in the genitals, is what you’re saying?

I read on the internet (so it must be true) of bars where there is a sign in the ladies’ room to the effect of “If you are feeling uncomfortable ask for Rhonda [or some other name]”. You ask the bartender for Rhonda, he says “She’s working in the kitchen,” and he shows you out the back way where they have called you…

I’m so sorry someone did that to you, and someone you know, no less. Glad to hear you were okay. And great point about the deterrent factor; that didn’t even occur to me but totally makes sense. 

This is so important, and not just because they’re going to thwart active spiking attempts: they’re important because things like drink lids and good signage are a deterrent. They signal to would-be rapists that, even if the woman doesn’t see you spike her drink, the bouncers and bartenders have their eyes out for…

How many years ago did Sam say that? I feel like it’s possibly deteriorated in the past fifteen years, but what do I know. I have been thinking about the rise of beer social media lately, and how I both love it and hate it. Great to have interactions/information/conversation, but a lot of people get competitive or…

Yes, music venues definitely should address this as well! Glad to see there’s a group specifically promoting that. Alcohol + people bumping up against each other requires special consideration.

I think there’s an assumption that cheap/clubby bars are more dangerous than higher-end ones, but I think predators can frequent all types of environments. I would say I do feel safer during the day, just because it’s easier for me to see my environment and who’s in it (also, really drunk people tend to stick out more…

I wrote about a great local Chicago organization hoping to make live music scenes safer in a similar manner. Glad to hear these places exist!

As I get older(30) I find myself visiting beer/cider only establishments earlier in the evening(3-8pm), or higher class cocktail bars where you have a more personal bartender. For example for my recent birthday my wife, my friend and I visited a higher class barrel aged beer brewery around 3pm then hit a beer/cider…

One answer. Ease. Sure, you can make a roux. Or you can dump in a can of something already creamy. And cream of chicken is the go to for casseroles.

Gotta love Funeral Potatoes.

I grew up in Richmond, so this kind of casual racism is par for the course, what with Monument Avenue and the Confederate History Museum and the places us black folk knew we should not linger/visit lest you have an unfortunate run in with someone - and this is in the 1990s! After years away, I came back to Northern…

Ah, that’s different then—you’ve basically got dipping-noodle tsukemen then. (Worth ordering if you get a chance)

But yeah, unless you can verify that the restaurant will separate the noodles from the broth, don’t do it!

I was actually thinking of packaged instant ramen, but the place I sometimes order delivery ramen from actually separates the noodles/other ingredients from the broth in separate containers. So thoughtful!