One of the HuffPo reporters asked McConnell that same question already.... and Brer Terrapin absolutely didn’t miss a beat. Of course he knew that question was coming, and he had his deflection ready.

Wait, I think I get it. Calling yourself trash is how men deal with the fact that they actually like patriarchy and misogyny because it benefits them. So they show shame and that covers up for the fact that they still want dominance. If you say “I’m trash” and do a little performative feminism, you can avoid changing…

I hope? I love Cardi B and share Jez’s acute girl crush on her. And in a country that hates women as much as America does in 2017, Cardi’s being mad successful, making money, and using her words to command the public’s attention may themselves be political, even feminist acts- I get that.

I’m astounded you don’t see the problem with a man asking a coworker if he can masturbate in front of her, unsolicited. Like, the idea you could quote that passage, and your takeaway is “Gee, now THAT’S harassment too?” just leaves me dumbstruck. Yes, that’s harassment!

Yeah because asking someone you’re not involved with if you can wank at them is so charming and not at all creepy.

“But there are people who do do this. Who do so while operating within in the bounds of sexual harassment policy.”

Not for nothing but if my husband and I worked in the same office and he asked me to watch him masturbate while we were at work, I would be very upset and there would be a serious conversation later at home. The fact that I am at work, WORKING, is a pretty clear indicator that now is not the time to fuck me, even if…

“Thus are the many faceted ways of the heart.”

soliciting the opinions of the commenteriate on this observation

Really? You can’t fathom any possible reason why behavior that is acceptable within the context of the kink-community might not be automatically appropriate in the context of a professional relationship?

I mean ...nothing is wrong with a ‘blunt proposition’ in terms of asking someone out in the right environment.

You’ve said you don’t engage in romance with colleagues like 50 times in this thread.

It has been my experience that in one’s endeavors to become a potential sexual partner often times sexual things are discussed. Sometimes one miscalculates in attempting this.

Asking your colleague if you can masturbate in front of her isn’t “expressing sexual interest”, it is abuse. Fuck off with your verbose bullshit, you know exactly what’s going on here.

But surely whether or not a person is receptive to sexual advances is not the metric as to whether or not they are appropriate.

Met my husband when he was a resident and I was a medical student. He was my supervisor, but very briefly (for a week or so).

1. He decided it was a good idea to masturbate at work. Incredibly inappropriate and it creates a terrible envrionment for, you know, the people who don’t wish to see/hear him masturbate while they try to go about their jobs.

He asked a person who answered to him at work to watch him masturbate. There are about five things wrong with that, right there. If you can’t see them, then maybe you really should go and read a sexual harassment handbook.

You really don’t see the problem with asking a colleague in a professional situation if they’ll watch you masturbate? He has power over the careers/opportunities these women are exposed to. Do you do that at work? Walk into the lunch room and ask the first woman you see if she’ll look at your dick?

#NotAllLennies