Four pudgy white guys sitting around in cargo shorts shooting the shit is exactly how I imagined the offices of the Wall Street Journal. Is that a picture of today’s editorial board meeting?
which is useful
Also, you could rush into a decision that you aren't sure about, only to get non-sleeping, high energy, high needs kids like mine and then feel even worse. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
I assume your response is meant to counter the wave of "No don't do it, bearing crotch-fruit will ruin your life!!!11!". I love parenting too, but I can admit that it isn't for everyone. Just look at earlier generations when bearing children was an expectation and not a choice. I don't feel that it is selfish to…
In addition to everything else that’s been said:
^This!
My daughter is ten and it is easily ten times harder than when she was one. Babies you just have keep alive. Kids you have to worry about not damaging their psyches (AND keep them alive, and not hating you, and all this while they turn into emotionally volatile assholes.)
Seriously, don’t. Having kids is basically signing up to be a slave for the rest of your life (or, at least, 18 years). You know how you like to do those things that you like when you want to do them? Forget it. It’s over. You can’t do those things anymore and you especially can’t do them when you’d like to do them.…
Set your alarm to go off every two hours throughout the night. I have a feeling you won’t be on the fence anymore. You’ll be joining me on team IUD and a cat.
I love that. face tattoo. That is exactly how I feel some mornings. My kid is a doll and has never bothered me. I managed a very demanding PhD since he was 5 months old. Its was difficult but my amazing son made it easy. Yet, I regret taking on this responsibility that will never go away, even on a vacation, or in my…
It’s true! Looking up “regret” stories kind of clinched the deal for me — and yes, I got a 10-year IUD! Hearing from my mom how miserable and stifling motherhood often was for her, at least until us kids were adults, also helped me decide. She only told me when I asked because I was on the fence.
I was on the fence for many years and I am finally at the age where — although I *could* possibly still have a kid through medical intervention — my biological clock has pretty much stopped ticking. I’m not sure how old you are, but if you’re nearing the point of no return, I’d say do some deep soul searching and talk…
I hate that fucking trope.
Children are a terrible investment. High risk, low return.
or woman who are told they are not “complete” if they don’t have children by other women?
Sorry you’re getting so much crap. The thing is, my little brother drank some leftover beer a few times, he’s fine. That’s not the end of the world, but if this woman is constantly doing this, then she’s an ass. There are plenty of shitty moms AND dads. If you let your kid run around in a restaurant where the poor…
You know, I’m totally OK with judging someone who lets her toddlers drink leftover party alcohol because she’s too hungover herself to deal. And I have no kids and none on the way. I get that motherhood is hard, but is it THAT hard to get your ass up to keep your children from getting poisoned?
I’m not a mom, but every mom I know says this, and then — well. Yeah. Reality occurs. Good luck, though. :)
Good luck. You’ll see soon enough.