It makes me mad when people like these two do pet play and sub/dom (and possibly humiliation) play in public and are then like, “What? We’re not doing anything!” It’s like when you were a kid and your sibling held their finger a millimeter from your eye and kept saying, “I’m not touching you!”

100% Agree. By walking someone on a leash in public you are making everyone you come into contact with part of the subs humiliation. Your reactions be they positive or negative become part of the sexual experience of the BDSM, and the bystanders in the mall did not consent to be part of that experience. If a couple…

Nice try. This statement is applicable to the public degradation of another human, shockingly, and soo unexpectedly, a woman in this case.

I would say it’s the degree to which they make out. A little making out won’t get you kicked out of a mall. Trying to swallow each other’s heads often does get people kicked out of a mall, and should, in my opinion.

Uh-uh they brought it into the public arena which made it everyone else’s business. And why should it be on you to explain the behavior of narcissistic morons to a child? What are we supposed to do, avert our eyes? They are just obnoxious people with no self-awareness.

I could care less what consenting adults do in their home or in public spaces that are designed for this kind of play. But I would rather not be part of someone’s fetish without consent. Part of walking her on the leash in public is about getting a charge from people’s reactions.

Clearly these two are seriously into the attention. I have a friend who “forgot” that she was locked into her collar and her Master had the key when she went to fly, and there was a massive thing about it—and she ate up every drop of attention. It just makes me roll my eyes.

I have a friend who has these kind of relationships and I make clear I want nothing to do with being around while they’re in the “zone” so to speak.

Yeah I think the “their just playing” explanation would work on a young kid but good luck satisfying a 1o year-old with that answer. Not saying it would traumatize your child for life or anything but puppy play and dominant/submissive role playing is sorta advanced sex/human psychology to get into when you were just…

Yeah—this kind of thing in the privacy of one's home, or at a club or event is fine—but personally I just wonder what a little boy hanging out at a mall would think if he saw a woman on her knees, on a leash; what perception it would give him of women in general. Scary IMO

What’s to explain? If the kid is under 12, they’ll likely be fine with, “Oh, they’re playing a game, some people like to do that, it’s silly but don’t worry about it.” If they’re older, trust me, unless they’re completely sheltered from TV, movies, music, and the Internet, they know BDSM is a “thing”, even if they…

Yeah, I totally support clubs, or festivals, or spaces where people can explore their sexuality with other consenting adults in a public setting. It’s great (and often incredibly important) to be able to express yourself sexually.

THIS. I don’t want to see this shit, and I don’t think it’s asking too much to expect others to not inflict this sort of “play” on people who haven’t consented to be involved.

While I think open conversations are an important part of parenting, I think it’s kind of disingenuous to claim a parent can just tell their child that the man walking a woman on a leash around the mall is just “make believe.” Kids generally know that normal adults don’t usually play make believe in public and walk…

As a person who doesn’t want to see your (or I should say “their”) sexual play as I go about my daily life, I say, “Fuck no.”

It is inherently sexual.

Maybe he’ll spring for her eventual double knee replacement surgery.

Yeah, no. You don’t make me part of your sub/dom sexual play without my consent. There are fairs and clubs for that.

A few years back, I went to an “Introduction to Kink”-type of event at a bar downtown.

Yes. I have small hips and a tummy. High rise gives me pancake ass and if the fabric fits my ass/legs, it’s bursting at the seams to close over my tummy :( I get button gap with high waisted so I never show that they are high waisted— I pull my shirt over the buttons/ croch area, which I guess defeats the fashion…