Wait, I’m confused (in a completely non-snarky way). This is a civil trial, right?

I agree with you in spirit. I think the attack against you was due, in part, to your insistence that the employee is an idiot. I see her side, and I think the issue of the “cultural” headwrap is seriously problematic (as do you). I also think the manager sounds like an a-hole.

However, being an old, I also understand…