I’m coming around to think that this is a much larger issue than most people realize and subsequently it gets little attention. I can’t tell you how often the age of a woman’s children come up when we talk candidate recruitment (as in are her kids too young for her to be able to be an effective candidate) whereas a…
That is so sad. Your companionship is the most important thing. Hand-made gifts are nice, but any gift only cheers people up for a few minutes. Knowing you’re there for her whenever she needs you is far better. I’d say just start a conversation, she’ll talk about her loss if she wants to. Otherwise, just get her…
I know it is a cliche, but, when I lost my mother, if some good friend hadn’t told me that it does get easier, I am not sure I would have made it. The first year is the worst, I think.
My mother passed away on her birthday in May 2015 so it is a tough month all around. The bombardment of ads doesn’t help so thank you for addressing that the day can be hard for many people as I was VERY close with my mother.
This. I worked in Newark for many years back in the 80s and 90s, when it was on the rebound. In the community where I worked, the assumption seemed to be that every woman played some part of the maternal role and therefore every woman was acknowledged.
I’m planning to give all of my close friends that have had infertility issues or pregnancy losses a call and lots of love in the next couple days. Speaking from experience, mothers day can be very painful when you so desperately want to be a mom yourself but have not been able to become one. The years it weighed more…
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have nothing helpful to say, but I wanted to get your post out of the greys in case someone else does.
My best friend and I used to get each other a little flower for Mother’s Day. (I say used to because we’re not longer friends.)
Yes I completely relate to all of that. I mostly won’t post about it for the same reasons. And I also have the same feeling about how it’s been a really long time. I really don’t even know what else to say now, but you take care too stranger, and I just hope you became the person she would have wanted you to be.…
My wife and I just lost our 8 month old son this past Friday. We are having his funeral this coming Saturday and Mother’s Day is the next day. Our Moms will be around as we are close to them. Is there anyone that has lost a child that has any advice on how to possibly handle Mother’s Day this year.
If the kids are young, and you can, I’d still help them get her something. Not the kind of thing you would get a spouse like jewelry or flowers, but let the kids pick out a movie or game they could play together?
My mom passed away from a long battle with cancer almost 10 years ago. Mother’s Day usually sees some tears from me, but luckily I have a great mother-in-law and a step mom that don’t try to be my mom, but still are there for me. The biggest thing that has helped me is seeing how great my son has it with my wife and…
I have no personal experience, but have heard from others that recognizing their children is always appreciated. It might make them sad, but they like when other people bring up their child, because it’s not as if they forgot. You could send flowers or a card, take her out for lunch or some kind of treat- a movie, a…
My sons’s Dad and I separated when he was quite young.
My mom passed in 2009, and a year later, I moved to the seaside resort we visited every year. I bought a bench on the boardwalk, right across the street from the hotel we stayed in, with a memorial plaque that reads “Mom’s Bench.” I like to think that any mom who sees the bench thinks it’s for her, and sits down to…
I lost my mother 5 years ago and my husband lost his mother 2 years ago. I wasn’t able to have children. So I do dread mother’s day but I try to be a grown up and be thankful for all of the wonderful things in my life. I appreciate this post as it reminded me I am not alone.
The message needs to be “The GOP took away your health insurance.” Anything else is a distraction.
Admittedly, I’m biased. I went to Berkeley and lived in Oakland for my university years, and Stanford and Palo Alto were just the epitome of precious and spoiled to me. Dating a physicist at Stanford a few years later did nothing to dispel the illusion. When I moved with a different boyfriend to Silicon Valley at the…
As someone who gave living in West Virginia a try (I’m originally from California, lived in WV for about two years, then moved back to CA) there were some good points to this article, but I think you really underplay the role of racism/sexism in Donald Trump’s election there. When I was living in WV, I routinely heard…