Thank you! These women came across really fucking mean!

But really though, upon first meeting? and when it is your partners mother? You don’t find that a tad innapropriate?

I’m sorry you are getting so many negative replies here. I totally get where you are coming from. My grandfather’s wife has been a cranky, manipulative pain in the ass for our family for 30 years. Nothing is ever good enough, except her only child of course. its exhausting. I have literally never had a meal out…

Sure, a few gripes and jokes once and again wouldn’t be bad. But I feel bad about her venting when it’s things he can’t help, and any venting about my mother-in-law is very off-putting. How can this triangle still produce venom decades later?! It’s not even a triangle - it was a divorce and remarriage in a pretty…

Thank you so much. I know that I don’t always express myself really well when I’m upset, which is anathema to my profession, and leads to me sounding like a jerk. Luckily when at work, the family feuds don’t bear directly on my own life and I do a little better!

Something about not crossing bridges. You don’t have to take care of her if she’s old. There are many good facilities and you say she also has her own children.

She complained about her husband to me while we were at a meal while he was nearby - using the fact he can’t hear well as a basis for these complaints and an excuse why she can complain while he’s feet away. I don’t think it’s fair for someone in a new marriage to be expected to take on deeply personal and…

Thanks so much. That’s really helpful. Anyone who’s dealt with stepparents (I haven’t; my father died when I was young but my mom never remarried) is a welcome voice here. I like my biological in-laws a lot. The stepmom has a chip on her shoulder from wayyyyy before I came on the scene and it’s a tricky situation to…

Minimize the time you spend with her but be kind when you’re together. When she’s dead you’ll regret the times you were unkind, never the times you were kind. I speak from a certain amount of experience.

I think you’d feel differently being a shoulder to cry on for every holiday and visit... and seeing her exaggerations and manipulativeness effect the person I love most in the world. I absolutely understand I come off as a mean girl here, but the woman started our relationship by complaining about my husband’s mother.…

Um, pretty OT, but timely for me - can anyone help? I despise my husband’s stepmother. She is boring, desperate, and intense. We had a visit from them recently and it was like being around a girl in middle school who wanted to belong worse than anything but offers no good qualities. (I say middle school because it’s…

No amount of good acting can save a movie from poor direction and a bad script. I mean, the director’s only other film he’s made was Snow White and the Huntsman, of course the movie was going to be garbage.

Let’s face it this movie was going to be underwhelming from the start. Even with the whitewashing and the movie’s Sisyphean effort to try and handwave it away with “She’s Japanese but she’s in a white person’s body.” that still comes off as offensive, it’s a generic revenge story that plays like GitS’ greatest hits…

Again, the optics look bad, because of the way you are framing this.

Everyone in this story is JUST AS BAD as Pol Pot.

Adam Levine never made his “personal brand” no make-up. Nor has he come out and claimed he wears no make-up. Nor has he implied that there is something wrong with wearing make-up. All things Keys has done!

I love how you frame this as you did, instead of Person A calling out Person B for lying and/or being a hypocrite.
Levine’s comments make no judgment about whether make-up free is good or bad. He’s pointing out that Keys, who was the one to make “no make-up” a thing for herself, isn’t actually going make-up free.
If…

I am now prepared to wade into a comment section filled with incredible “just as bad” equivalence. Don’t let me down, people.

I hate to agree with him, but I’m glad he called her out. I’ve been noticing that she’s been gradually wearing more makeup and trying to play it off like she wasn’t wearing any. Obviously, she’s a grown woman and can do whatever she wants with her face, but she’s the one that made this such a THING.

I kind of don’t care, but I do think it’s frustrating for someone to make a huge deal out of not wearing any make-up but then wear “some” anyway. Why the “some”? And why not just say you are wearing some? Because if the point is to encourage ladies to feel comfortable being make-up free, and you aren’t comfortable…