Sexual openness doesn't preclude "commitment," it just precludes commitment to the practice of monogamy, which is very important to some people and less important to others—just like most of the other big joint decisions in marriage. As for the hypothetical scenario I'm talking about, obviously I'd want to work out an…

OH. Yep—I've worked in that world in the past—non-profits do seem to be a bit more conscious about keeping employees to normal hours. (though a non-profit was also the first place I had the experience of being given another person's job to do on top of my existing job, without a corresponding pay increase. So you do…

We may be talking about two different kinds of power, here—I'm talking about emotional/psychological power, where he decides that he can declare that his condition has ended sex for both of them, unless she wants to abandon him (a far worse form of marital betrayal, IMO). So in that situation, she stays because it…

To me the word "cheating" means "breaking the rules"—in a sexual sense, violating the established rules of a relationship. If their rule was monogamy, she started off cheating, but now that they've changed the rules, she's not cheating anymore.

But the other version of this is a story where he has all the power, by deciding that because he's not able to have sex anymore he should be able to shut down her access to sex entirely. I certainly hope that if I weren't able to have sex anymore, my husband would feel comfortable having sexual relationships with…

It sounds like you're fortunate enough to work at a place that actually hires enough staff to cover all the work they're expecting the staff to get done.

That's how I always thought of it. It's his nickname…I thought it was his family's way of saying that he was a little weird. To wit:

Off topic: why do people always pronounce the title of this book as if the second character's name were Zoey/Zoë, rather than zoo-ee, which is the more evidently correct pronunciation. He's not a female character. And there are two "o"s.

You can't just be in it for the money!

The COD beej actually sounds infinitely more appealing to me than the misery that Elgort proposes. Because in the bj scenario, I actually get to do something. I don't have to just sit there, watching. It's nice to have a little activity planned to pass the time, is all I'm saying.

I just assumed that was somehow related to an injury sustained during the cat collision. Which is to say: that doesn't look simply like a bad haircut, it looks like a severe wound that has only just begun to heal.

How do you not know how?!?! There are various techniques that make it more or less difficult, perhaps, but what is this "not knowing how"? You're basically saying that you don't understand the principle of the lever.

Yeah, that was about the size of it. Insane, right?

I've never read that stat before about how much traffic the Lex Ave line handles, but that's not surprising—that line is just a body-crushing nightmare. I realized at some point in the past couple years that if one wants to visit any of the UES museums, it's infinitely easier and more pleasant to just walk the 20…

Oh, he left her FOR Wife #2. She probably thought he was just following their grand destiny of love or something. Who knows. She sucks.

My FIL pulled a Newt and served my MIL with papers while she was in the hospital recovering from a hysterectomy. I'm looking forward to being completely unhelpful to him and his new wife whenever he starts getting old & sick.

Whaaaat???? Who said that??

Yep, I actually know someone in that situation, too. Her husband was such a shitty partner when she was sick that it was really the final nail in the coffin for their marriage. She's with a much better guy now.

Oh God, I'm so sorry. I mean, I'm glad you're rid of him. But I'm sorry you had to go through that hell to get there.

Aw, well that's kind of cute.