I’ve never heard of her before. That’s such a great line.

It’s like these guys go to board meetings to learn all the same tactics of controlling behavior. The night I finally left, my ex did the suicide thing. He said maybe he did really need a therapist (which he’d been going to because it was a condition of our staying together. I found out in court that therapist knew…

You’re human.

Then you definitely need to contact a state agency. No one should suffer through bad management because HR is piss-poor. Tell your HR person via email and send her response on to the state.

It’s never too late to start anything.

Have fun. Spend very, very little if no time at all on your exes other than basic background info (ie: the divorce is final next year).

I agree with mscoffe. Contact HR and any state agency you can. While no action has been taken on your bosses part, that sentence is just galling. I’m not her for chemo guilt trips.

My child’s other parent is a walking, talking bowel movement. He pawns my child off on his mother and does Disney shit. I’ve worked at not holding on to it.

I was for the first time this year, but this dude wasn’t doing ANYTHING and once I let him go the stories just started coming out of the woodwork.

Have you talked to your doctor about any PPD medication? That may ease your worry and sadness about the leave coming to an end in addition to the depression help.

See if there’s pregnancy yoga in your area. I did it and it’s great. I’ve done yoga on and off for 10 years and already loved it, but this is an option if your doctor’s cool with it.

It was awful because it wasn’t the person I’d fallen for. Which was bad then, but made it really fucking easy to stay gone. I say, to this day, I literally don’t know that person. He is 180 degrees different than the representative he sent the first year and a half we were together. He’s a pathological liar. So, I…

Nine days after my ex and I got engaged I suddenly worked too much, didn’t spend enough time with him and didn’t clean enough. It was out of the blue. I had a major career-starting project due a month later and all kinds of other things on my plate. He supposedly had ADD and I was trying to make sure there wasn’t a…

You beat me because you don’t have A/C, but I feel you on the move. I’ve lived in my place for three years and that’s the longest I’ve lived in any place since I’ve been an adult. I have so much shit. Like, how? Where? Why?

I’m not a smoker and never have been. So, I was shocked to find out my home state of California is 21+ for cigarette purchases, too. I can’t believe New York is the same. I’ve lived there also and had no idea. Guess I really don’t care.

Same here. I actually started doing this at the long-term parking deck at my airport.

Her last name is actually Damond, not Diamond.

So what’s your Indigenous person stereotype then?

Thank you for your kind words. It’s just one part of who I am and one part of my really great life. The good that came out of it is that I have no problem coming out as a survivor. People don’t expect to hear me say and don’t think I’m the kind of woman it could happen to. Well, I’m a radical feminist who has a career…

Seriously. Because, in addition to a whole host of other things this person probably can’t grasp, Black and Hispanic women don’t only have relationships with Black and Hispanic men. I’m not white, but the man who abused me was.