Because domestic violence is not about violence. It’s about control. I haven’t read this study in full, so I don’t know if control is mentioned. So many people thing violence is because of anger. He got violent because a woman wouldn’t listen to him or do what he said.

You stereotyped older Black women and continue to with this last statement.

I love your “being Americans, after all.” 

Thank you!!!!!!!!

You’re yet another person making assumptions about Black women. Did it occur to you for one second that they actually thought for themselves and thoughtfully considered their primary and presidential candidate? Nah, couldn’t be that. They must’ve just done it because of some guy she married.

Take your cynicism somewhere else. Don’t stereotype older Black women in these here comments.

You put my exact feelings into words. Plus, he’s not a Democrat and blatantly said he was only running as one for the resources. He doesn’t care about the party and it was no clearer than when he was sitting there at the DNC just soaking up all the cheering. This was after he dragged his goddam feet to say he’d…

Yes, I know that’s the standard - especially in competition shows once the competition has started. However, I was talking about when she first auditioned. She had no idea what show she’d be on, know idea about the content. It was like 2002 and she was alone.

Well, Shaun King has said his conception wasn’t a great thing and he didn’t want to bring that back up for his mother. So, perhaps that could be the case.

I just listened to that. Yeah, maybe tell your kid who he is so that he can own it and define it for himself. That way he’s not defined by someone else and disparaged.

I don’t remember that bit, but I’m not surprised.

You know, I’d give these parents a tiny, minuscule break if they’d said something like this is the kind of stuff they always do to a Black man when he gets some power and money. It’s a conspiracy. I wouldn’t agree for one second, but I’d say okay that’s been the prevailing wisdom of some folk in our community.

I can’t even deal with these parents. Like, what the fuck? As long as we’re there with her, it’ll be okay for her to be around a known abuser. Money and fame were these people’s priority, not their child.

They probably did- unless they were the same age as you at the time. In that case, they probably romanticized it.

I immediately guessed this person was between 12 and 14. It made me so sad because she’s already willingly objectifying herself for boys. It just reminded me of that Dook student’s powerpoint that said more about how little she thought of herself than how transgressive and feminist she was.

When I was reading that I thought maybe they’re between 35-40 now and she’s thinking this all in hindsight. I mean, come on, it would be great to realize in your mid-30s that your gut was right when you were 12. You’d feel all hyped about yourself, having lived a life of travel and having had some good relationships…

The photo of their new home is captioned with her saying they made the downpayment with all of her job savings from 7th grade on. Now, maybe he worked as well, but...

I thought the same thing, especially because they would have started dating when she was 19 or 20. So, between 12 and 19, did she date anyone? And how deep and experiential can those young relationships have been? Add in that she was laser-focused on someone else and it seems pretty all eggs in one basket.

I agree with the call me when you’re past 30, but it’s not really fair to claim he’s not happy because of his engagement photos.

I could tell your BS meter was more accurate than most 14-year-olds. Makes sense given your context. I was 36 before I understood what you knew then.