Tentatively, we've decided to go forward with it, but not for a few months. She's planning a trip home around the new year, so when she gets back, we'll plan on going for it. We still have to figure out the legal details, and how we'll want to proceed with it (not to mention how much we'll tell our families. She's…

While I won't presume to know exactly where you are in that, I think I can say that I've been in similar enough territory to sympathize.

I would say embrace this time you have together fully, and don't try to insulate yourself from her to save pain down the line. If she leaves and you can't follow, if you have to say goodbye, then that will hurt, but it will also signify that you had something good, which is nothing to regret in and of itself.

I mean, damn, right?

Considering that I'm straight-plus-Tyrese-Gibson, I wouldn't have any qualms saying so, because I just assume everyone is <designation>-plus-Tyrese-Gibson.

And I'm sorry I got snippish there. I felt like we were chasing that issue in circles around the central question. No reason for me to not be civil.

Listen, I'm saying this again because you seem to keep trying to steer back to it: I DON'T DISAGREE WITH YOU ABOUT THE AFFIRMATIVE ACTION THING AS A POLITICAL ISSUE. I'm not arguing about that. I'm arguing that it's possible for a straight white guy to come to his own conclusions about how he should deal with…

When he makes the comment that he doesn't want to turn race into the final criterion for the contestants of his show? A comment that has been expressed by no shortage of creatives and professionals from many demographics other than straight, white, and male? I disagree with his conclusions here, but his opinion is…

It is a fascinating and terrifying proposition.

I'd say Aztec, by Gary Jennings

But those issues of casting are far afield from Matt Damon's explicit opinions. Hell, when he got into the argument about racial diversity, he said that casting for diversity on-screen is fine, but he didn't want to be choosing production teams on the basis of race (especially on his show Project Greenlight, where…

I guess there's no accounting for taste.

It's a pithier way of saying it than I usually prefer, but I'll stand by it.

I'll actually go out on a limb and say that I sympathize with Damon too, because (and I'll admit that I'm being charitable with him here) he wasn't arguing for any kind of undue discrimination, and white people are allowed to form thoughts and opinions on these issues too. I didn't agree perfectly with his take on…

"Jesus man, we were all just having a good time, but then you had to come in and make it a THING, like you always do. Congratulations, you've officially become your father."

"And then I made a pun about fingerblasting. It was so easy."

Maybe someone should make a game where instead of killing wave upon wave of faceless enemies, you instead run up and hi-five them. You would still have a gun, but if you shoot someone, they'll weep and cry for loved ones for several minutes before dying, and everyone else in the game would refuse to hi-five you…

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I mostly agree, but on the other hand, if your co-star is cool jumping at those chances to up his profile and make a living, it's not wrong (morally or factually) to note it.

Conceptually