Megan, I love you. I really do. But can we please finally STOP with this? Have you or anyone else mocking Crocs, clogs, and other supportive shoes, ever considered that some people might need to wear these because of disability issues? Or have you considered that some might be making this choice as an alternative to…

I have no idea whether Sonmez shared the link then. She may have, although she may not have. She is not a sports reporter, and Kobe’s retirement and farewell tour was primarily sports news, while his death was and is national news. In any event, that’s a weird standard to decide whether discussing the rape case is…

Yes! If someone is empathetic enough to understand that it would be hard for Vanessa Bryant or her kids to have Kobe’s rape trial rehashed right now ... surely they’re also empathetic enough to understand that it would be hard for any sexual assault victims (but especially Kobe’s!) to read these fawning posts that…

In what the fuck way did Sonmez make a mistake? Ifl Michael Harriot, but don't act like Kobe didn't rape someone. 

As someone who attended a cousin’s wedding less than 2 weeks after our grandfather (who had dementia) died: there’s a fuckton of emotional whiplash all the way around, even when the death is “easy” and doesn’t involve murder/suicide.

Yikes, that’s one helluva slippery slope you’re treading on. Any reasonable person would blow his own head off if he believed doing so would benefit his loved ones? You’ve just endorsed a whole lot of suicide, not just by disabled people. Are you prone to suicidal thoughts?

HELLLL NO. My father shot my mother in a murder-suicide in 2017. This shit is why people had the audacity to say “They went together” or “They just loved each other to much” to me, and to talk about what a “wonderful husband” my father was. Those people didn’t read the police report detailing my mother’s defense…

His choice? It wasn’t his choice to make, and I don’t think a grieving family who don’t want a monster for a dad are necessarily the sole and final word on whether murder is ok.

Sure, except he killed his wife? That's...literally domestic violence. Stop excusing it. 

Right. Because she is dead. 

It makes sense that his children would be looking for a good narrative. This is their mother and their father. All of that heartbreak, losing not one parent but both and then one of them actually killed them both. No, that’s really got to hurt. But the NYT is not their kids. They should not be buying into an easy…

It is apparently true she could not add her perspective. So what? Her perspective on whether or not she lives or dies is the only one that matters. She was killed, murdered, without her consent. Period. I don’t give a fuck whether a bunch of people who aren’t her are okay with someone else taking her life without her…

there is a pretty important person who was impacted by this man’s actions whose opinion would be determinative, but whose perspective is missing here.

that is not the accusation being made at all

It IS domestic violence. He murdered his wife. There is no lumping-in required.

This is precisely what troubles me about how seemingly popular it has become for people - people with little to no experience with the dementia population - to casually announce that they would rather die early than live with dementia. That announcement often happens in place of the much needed conversation about how…

Anyone who uses this term has never made muffins or didn’t think too hard about it. You don’t knead muffins. The correct term is “makin’ biscuits.”

Black people aren’t all uniformly cisgender and straight.

So black trans women just don’t exist then?