When my kiddo was just over 2, my husband and I got free travel and stay at the Cosmopolitan hotel in Las Vegas...I cried every single night, and often randomly through the day, just because I missed my kid. Now that he's a month away from 11, and smells like he's entering puberty, I still get a twinge when I can't…

I know it sounds dumb, but that Kit Harrington bit is super relatable as a new parent. You know a baby is forever, but the “there is not break” -- even with co-parenting, even with some help from family -- there is no mental break with an infant and it is exhausting and nothing prepares you for it. I read SO many baby…

Re: Coco Austin breastfeeding her 5 year old:

A couple weeks ago, I posted about auditioning for a Shakespeare play in which I’d have to gender-bend a role to be in.

I decluttered most of one of the two most problematic rooms in my apartment. Feels good to have something done that I have been putting off for several months. My reward is watching the extended cut of The Fellowship of the Rings in 4k UHD.

I was having a really good day. Hiked five miles. Ran/walked 2.5 miles. Went to a nice little street fair. Ate some amazing sushi. And got my ass grabbed by a rando on my way home. I threatened to beat the s**t out of him and he took off, but my f**king useless male neighbor just sat there and watched the whole thing.…

Some people in the comments seem to think this is the fault of an individual employee and not the fault of the company.

“Shit rolls uphill” is really the only way to keep companies accountable for the corporate culture they foster. Sometimes there’s a direct chain of causation from shitty leadership down to shitty employees, sometimes a shitty employee is just shitty in their own right... but the expectation that shitty employee…

Oh man, it must have felt SO GOOD for Emily Mitchell to be able to “well actually...” Blizzard after the way she was treated. Also, props to Jeremi Gosney for not just believing his colleague but using his position to actually back her in a meaningful way and not just put out some bullshit “I see you, I believe you,…

How many of these people allegedly boycotting Activision Blizzard altogether will change their minds by the time the next Diablo trailer or whatever drops?

It’s two-sided. Reality is most men in this culture are expecting and looking for that fantasy. Because they don’t see the woman as a person, AT ALL. They see a myth, a pedestal, a wholly unrealistic idea.

“Christy followed the rules at camp and stuck to a one-piece swimsuit, sometimes with a T-shirt coverup to protect the boys from temptation. Her North American Baptist church wasn’t extreme “

look at these descriptions of marriage, and I’m just dumbfounded.

I had a (super-nice in that churchy way) classmate from high school who was an evangelical Christian and was definitely into the whole purity culture thing, as well the sort of gender roles endorsed by her church. Back when Facebook was a new thing, I remember seeing her post how much she loved the book Let Me Be a…

Not only is it bananas too expect that switch to flip, but what is the reaction if it does? I’m guessing a spouse raised in purity culture and the belief that a pure woman just has sex to please her husband will be very critical of a sex goddess wife.

“how can a woman be brought up believing that sex is shameful (with a tiny little asterisk next to that: *unless you’re married!), and then be expected to just flip some sort of internal switch on her wedding night, becoming an insatiable sex goddess?”

So much of this “sex on demand” is wrapped up in the idea that the husband represents a proxy for Jesus/God in the relationship.

Set aside, for a moment, most non-Christian and many Christians’, visceral reaction to that read.

Many evangelical men lean their identity into that. But only in the most dark and twisted way.

T…

This comment is why I think every abiding Mormon has a terrible sex life.

I was kicked out of the Christian school I attended and was lectured by my pastor after being raped at 15. My rapist went to the same school and they allowed him to finish his senior year via correspondence classes so he could graduate with his class through the school. I wasn’t offered any such opportunity. The…

“It cannot be understated how prevalent and powerful purity culture messaging was and is for *millions* of people in the Christian world. It’s not just the fundies.”