Bullshit. You can read and “pay attention“ to the entire article and still be grossed out by how this article was framed. The question of whether we should mourn the loss of unplanned pregnancies is stupid privileged nonsense, because no of course we shouldn’t mourn them. It’s not like unplanned pregnancies have gone…

Seriously. And:

I don’t think there’s anything wrong at all with a discussion about “baby ambivalence” but framing such a discussion as “should we mourn the loss of unplanned pregnancies?” feels gross. You know what’s unequivocally wonderful for women? The ability the completely eliminate the possibility of an unplanned pregnancies…

Yeah, the “should” in the headline also pissed me off - I felt like I was being told what my opinion should be.

It also comes across as ridiculously anti-feminist. We’re cyborgs (read as: abnormal) now because we won’t (intentionally or accidentally) reproduce? Fuck off with that.

This is a deeply stupid and oblivious article. Worst thing I’ve seen on Jez in a while. I mean ... why?

Yeah, it's not the concept that I have an issue with. It's the lack of acknowledgement that this only true for a subset of privileged women.

“It might just be the best thing that ever happened to you!”

I actually could never imagine an unplanned pregnancy being a “whoopsy - okay!” moment. SERIOUSLY?

Yeah, annoying because this is what every conversation with my extended family seems to entail. “Oh, just wait! You’ll love it when it happens!” Um, no.

It really does read that way. As though contraception doing what it is supposed to do is now bad. If a woman is undecided about wanting a baby, then an IUD is not the right option for them. There is far too much romanticism regarding unplanned pregnancies. Poor women in particular have few resources when it comes to…

I think the focus of this article should have been less “mourning the loss of the accidental pregnancy because of IUDs” and more “this is something that financially comfortable people of childbearing age are deliberately doing because they can’t pull the trigger on having kids.” It’s not really about the IUDs, it’s…

“It’s fine if you don’t want to have a baby, but are you suuuuuure you don’t want to have a baby? Maybe you should get pregnant and see!” is sort of what I was getting from this article.

1000% this.

There’s also something creepy about the subtle “accidental pregnancies may make some childfree-by-choicers someone embrace motherhood” message. Sure, it’s true for some, but overall, isn’t giving women as much control over what happens to their body as possible for the best?

A thousand times this. I’m super happy an accidental pregnancy turned out ok for a reasonably well-off white woman. For most of us, an accidental pregnancy would really fuck us over; physically, financially, and mentally.

Yeah I got a goldilocks vibe at the beginning, like “This birth control isn't effective enough, this birth control is TOO effective :("

This is reading really privilege-y to me. There are some who have the privilege of accidental pregnancies being okay, or even welcomed. If that’s you, then don’t get an IUD. No one is making women get IUDs if they don’t want them.

I am really confused as to the purpose of this film.

That vine is giving me life